You don't get involved except to listen to your son. It may be that your grandson is particularly difficult or it may be that he's acting as many teenagers do. Does your son ask for advice? If not, say nothing. If so, suggest he leaves the room if his son is rude. Ask him what he thinks he should do and how he could accomplish it. Are he and his wife in agreement on behaviour discipline? Be available for your grandson too. Listen to him but don't judge. If you get involved you risk falling out with your son, your daughter in law or your grandson. I was a difficult teenager and grew into a reasonable adult.
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