Hi,
I’m a granny to two great wee girls age 5 and 3. But I’m worried about my daughters parenting and would appreciate any advice.
It all just seems very chaotic eg
• Lack of consistency
• Poor boundaries
• Shouting/yelling at kids when not doing what they’re told
• Bargaining eg you can’t get/do this till you do that.
• Too many sweeties/treats.
• Sweets before dinner, so dinners not eaten.
• Pizzas and other processed food with little nutritional value.
My daughter’s a stay at home mum during the week and works in a retail job at weekends when dad looks after the girls.
Me and my husband help out a fair bit and see them regularly.
My daughter loves her kids to bits, absolutely no doubt about that and she and her husband (who works long hours) have a good relationship.
But I just feel the kids deserve better. And I’m not sure what (if anything) I can do to help the situation.
I’ve tried to offer guidance or suggestions but have been quickly put in my place, so I’m afraid of saying anything now in case my daughter withdraws from me.
She’s doesn’t take kindly to suggestions about anything, not just the kids. I think she just sees it all as criticism and judgement.
Our relationship is good despite this but it’s crystal clear that there has to be no suggestion of any kind or else!
I feel bad writing this but I’ve no one I can honestly talk to about it. I’m also just sad and worried.
Should I just accept and say nothing as my daughter is closed to any advice or suggestions anyway. And just enjoy my grandkids when they’re with us.
Thanks,
Sad and worried!
Cathyg
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