Silly, but really getting to me, advice please

Blossoming

Give her a shopping list and ask her to drop them off for you.

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M0nica I remember advising a relative who was staying in a cottage a few miles from here that there was a Waitrose and a Lidl in the nearest town. She said that her DH would never eat anything from Lidl.
Some of the vegetables they were eating at the time at our house were from Lidl. I didn't like to say - they did say how lovely the meal was ?
It's the way I cook them!

…but we all love Lldl and Aldi don’t we ? I do

That might put an end to the constant name dropping of this gem. IF that still didnt do the trick ..... i would take things a step further and tell dear MIL to SHUT UP ...... hahahaha ....

Good grief

I have a friend who shops the low price supermarkets, and to be honest, although she is an excellent cook, since she started shopping there, I have yet to have a meal with her that I have enjoyed.

We stayed over and had a meal a few weeks ago. The chicken in the casserole was as white as milk and totally devoid of flavour. Thankfully pudding was apple crumble with custard made from Birds custard powder.

Next time she says it, ask her to buy the item for you when she is next shopping and you'll reimburse her.

I know exactly what you mean Pukka A relative of mine is similar and it feels as if they are treating me like a child who doesn't know how to manage money.

Do you feel she is being critical of your spending? Is she worried you won't be able to afford other things or is she just someone who has always had to be thrifty & it has become an ingrained habit and she can't understand why someone would not want to 'save' whenever they could?

I have a friend who has always had to watch her spending and really finds it difficult to go to one cafe in town rather than the cheaper one even though she can now afford the 'extra' cost.
in your shoes I might say something like 'when I am saving up for something I will try xx supermarket, thanks for heads up"

It sounds like a little thing but you are sensitised to it, so the store's name hits your eardrum at 120 decibels. Try to lower the impact with a stock reply as suggested by others - eg I can't get everything I need there... - so you don't have to think about you are going to say. It works like a plaster over a blister.

serendipity22 IF that still didnt do the trick ..... i would take things a step further and tell dear MIL to SHUT UP ...... hahahaha.....

Oh dear.

Maybe she so pleased to have found this gem that she wants to share it with you.....

If that were me, i would make it a mission to go to this gem of a shop so i could honestly say the next time it was brought into conversation, that I had been and didn't care much for the goods on the shelves.

That might put an end to the constant name dropping of this gem. IF that still didnt do the trick ..... i would take things a step further and tell dear MIL to SHUT UP ...... hahahaha.....

Maybe she has a memory problem and she doesn't remember her mentioning all the time?

Other repetitive comments or behaviour she exhibits?

If she remembers and she just wants to make you go there and she cannot take a no for an answer - "mil, I have already answered this question many times, please stop asking"
If still continues- change the subject or even limit the contact with her

The issue I find with the low price supermarkets is that they don’t stock everything I need or want. Working people don’t have time to trawl round more than one shop, so I’d tell her that you can’t get (eg the right washing powder, dog food, they don’t stock light bulbs, etc.) and prefer to go to one shop for everything, even though some things cost more.

You could say that the customer service, cleanliness and convenience is much better at your store, and leave her to it.

I know my sister is always going on about food price comparison, but we don't live it the same town, so I nod and agree. I'm not going to drive to three different stores to save money, when my time is valuable as well.

It’s just not on my radar! I have never gotten into shopping there! Hubby doesn’t fancy it either…
shandy57 your right I think that she is trying to be helpful, and I maybe shouldn’t let it get to me… just wondered if someone had any better replies to get her off my case lol, I just say oh yes and make the right noises, but recently it’s almost every conversation it seems!

Ignore or say thanks for the tip but don’t get hooked upon it

Give her a shopping list and ask her to drop them off for you.

When you aren't working and not much is happening in your life, being 'helpful' is something I find myself doing too, it makes me feel I am making a contribution to that person's life. Could you go just once, to please her?

"That's interesting, mother in law." And turn away and talk to someone else. Don't give her anything to hang on to.

Well it’s the same at work we always say ‘ you’d get that cheaper at A’ she probably doesn’t see that it upsets you she’s probably passionate about the store don’t take it personally. Just smile and say ‘ oh really’

It wouldn’t really bother me , I’d just say each to their own mum!

Ignore her

Tell her you went there and they didn’t stock the brands you buy. She will never know.

Mind you, you might find that it’s much cheaper and you enjoy actually going in there.