How to let go of my adult children

I bought mine backpacks.

I heard... Menopause is nature's way of letting your children go....

I just pop in experiences of my own when relevant to whatever they are talking about or problem they have. They can take it on board and apply it to their own situation if it seems to be a help/solution...or ignore it, and that's fine. I feel I've done my bit.

[I also feel it helps them get to know me, what's made me who I am, why I took the decisions I did in various situations [and my mistakes/struggles] a bit better].

It means I can relate, that I'm here to listen and support if needed. Everyone is so different, with unique backgrounds, needs and dreams, experience and logic so we have to let them find their own ways. But let them feel we are approachable and may have some wisdom after all!

I am learning to not give any advice unless it is requested. I am a slow learner though and have to bite my tongue! I just think they are adults and I never appreciated my mum's unsolicitored advice!

‘Suggestions’ are just that. They will take them or not. My late mum gave me wise advice many years ago. “All you can be now is a safety net. They will drop in it if needed”.

My daughter is more intelligent and more successful than I ever was, so I stopped telling her what to do a very long time ago.

Ah, I’m forever suggesting what they should be doing about things here…. All of them are responsible home owning doing their own thing, fully paid up members of the grown ups club…..but still my children. It’s so tricky. You just have to trust them, mine just all look at me now, and smile. I think they get it, that some things probably won’t ever change.

How old are they?

I don't think it is very easy to be honest. We know the mistakes we made ourselves, so it only natural we want to guide our own children. It is a tricky one isn't it? Caring but staying quiet. Sometimes impossible