Redhead56, I had a similar experience. My ex was abusive, we had to have extra security at cost because he threatened court officers, wouldn't engage with Caffcas and showed the Judge the type of person he was every time we went to court for 2 years. Each time, his solicitor appealed to the court to give him another chance because she maintained I was triggering him! I wasn't actually denying him access but asked for supervised access to ensure that my children were not subjected to his bad behaviour. Finally, just as were due to meet the Judge in Chambers to resolve the situation, my ex walked out of the court because he had to take his 16 year old girlfriend to work. Although the Judge took a dim view, he wouldn't say that my ex couldn't have access, he just said no order would be made for it at that time.
During the time we were in conflict about access, he put a gun to my head and pulled the trigger, rammed my mother's car, smashed all my headlights on my car, was arrested in a stolen car and a host of other abusive behaviours. None of it affected his standing with the Court.
My own son took his ex to Court for access to his son, no barristers and our solicitor couldn't be there so we were on our own. However, the Court were very reasonable and he was granted defined access along with more "reasonable access." To be honest, he only ever got the defined access but rather than keep going back to Court, he decided that it was better for his son not to keep fighting his mother. What he couldn't stop was the indoctrination that he was a terrible father, didn't really love his son, etc, etc. However, he hung in there and now his son is reaching adulthood, he is able to see for himself that this is not true. He now lives with his paternal grandmother so he can complete his further education as his relationship with his mother has broken down completely. He can't live with his Dad because they are 250 miles apart as his mother moved him as far away as he could and he needs to finish his A level exams this year.
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