Holiday alone ?

I would let the antidepressants kick in first and then book just a few days to start with. Just so you don't start to worry make sure you know how your OH is going to manage or, however grumpy, you may find you spend too much time wondering what is going on. Sorry I don't think I have read your other thread so not fully sure what the situation is.

Why not have a two-night break in a city like York or Chester, easy to get to by train, where there's lots to see? You could stay in a Premier Inn, or a nice bed and breakfast.

Why not take a study break in the Lakes at Higham hall
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They pick you up from which ever bus stop or train station you arrive at.
Each time I go I make one new friend. Good luck.

Notjustaprettyface My suggestion for a holiday/break away from your grumpy OH is the last paragraph here. Feel free to skip the rest!

My husband died (not passed - a nod to another thread) in 2008 and, over the years, I've told myself I should have a holiday. I never have because it would seem an awful waste of money to travel abroad, solo, and spend time reading or browsing in shops when I can, and do, do that right here at home. I've never been interested in museums, churches or other historical buildings (actually, I did enjoy the Alhambra Palace tour but the tour guide was extremely good looking!) and admiring lovely scenery (other than handsome tour guides) only interests me for a few seconds. I've also never been interested in beaches (hated them as a child) or boasting about far flung places I've travelled to.

When my husband was alive, he wanted a complete break from work, so we went abroad (hence the tour of the Alhambra). I would be counting down to the midpoint, when I would tell myself, "Right! We've broken the back of it now." Then I'd be counting the days down till we could get on the flight home. I think I just wanted to be in control of what I did and where I went, rather than ' trapped' in that holiday place.

I think I might be unusual but maybe some other GNers feel the same?

So, Notjustaprettyface maybe a complete break away would be good for you because you'd be 'trapped' and out of physical contact with your grumpy OH. You could make a plan of all the sightseeing, activities Hey! An activity holiday! Yoga perhaps? etc. Make sure you have books, a kindle is great for that. Google your destination to find out what you can do there. I once considered a flamenco holiday and I've often considered a yoga retreat but I can do yoga here, of course, so I've never put any of my ideas into practice.

Good luck!

Well done you took the first step going to your doctors. I think you should just take it easy for now you have only just started your meds. Give yourself time to adjust you will be more confident about making decisions then plans for a trip. In the mean time take yourself out to local places you like to go. Spoil yourself you deserve it and don’t worry about your husband he will be fine. The less you do for him will actually do him good he will manage without you being there all the time.

Plan a short coach trip there will be timetables places to stop and see etc. An organised trip maybe better for you save you planning it yourself. There will be other people travelling solo there usually is so you will have company whether you choose it or not. Whatever you decide to do just enjoy it and take care.

Have a look at Silver Surfers

You could hire a cottage or flat somewhere in the UK that you could drive to or get to by train or coach - just somewhere you could relax, go for walks, read and have time to unwind. Avoid school holidays there are plenty on line

How about a spa break? I used to have two or three days away, mostly alone, at Champneys. They have hotels around the country and many women come alone. It’s very relaxing and friendly too, and treatments are a bonus. Havnt been fir a while so might look into it.

So much depends on your interests and how you fancy travelling
I've done air bnb in oxford, very nice hostess and a few minutes walk from a regular bus service into the city
I've done youth hostels, you can have private rooms if you are out of season, I've done premier inns and travelodges, and rooms at pubs.
Maybe choose somewhere where there is a lot to do, but with parks and nice walks, only you know wh3ther you fancy a city break it somewhere in the country
When the now ex left I did different short stays, both in the country and in towns.
One word of warning with some of these cheap coach tours is that often the hotel is a cheap one miles away from where is advertised, you go to the nice place on the coach from the cheap hotel, so if you decide to do that look to see if you will be able to go for a nice walk in the evening somewhere you would like to go
A friend went in a trip to Stratford on avon and the Cotswolds, but the trip was based in Coventry in a Britannia hotel. Now it's an interesting city but anywhere you might fancy visiting would be closed in the evening, you'd not be able to go for a walk along the svin in the evening as she had planned to do. She hadn't read the itinerary correctly before booking

Just looked online at “just you”holidays, Way out of my price range unfortunately

Ive travelled a lot with “Just You”. It’s not just for divorced, widowed etc I’ve met ladies whose husbands are not well enough to travel and I’ve met women whose husbands just don’t want to travel. Ive met new friends and had some memorable holidays, have a look online, well worth it.

I’ve not so much been able to ‘stop’ looking after my husband for 16 years…. no overnight stay with relative…. no weekend away …. no more than 2 hours when I’ve been shopping. I’ve been his nurse/carer for 26 years and have not been away from him for passed 16!! No holidays …no break…no nothing! Nobody seems to think I need a break! Get your break if you can ….insist on it . You’ll need to help yourself so you can keep helping him.

I am going on a 3 night break to a beautiful hotel in maspalomas gran canaria at the end of june. My son has just holidayed there and thought I would love it. Adults only and lots of people holidaying on their own all different age groups. I need a break from alcoholic husband and I am due to have surgery sometime this year. I think 3 nights will be just enough to stop me feeling lonely. Its a bit daunting but exciting at the same time. I say go for it. We only live once

Maybe a course on something that interests you. Cookery Course? Baking course? Painting course? Sewing course? That way you have the company of others with common interests.

Go for it! Use a single holiday company such as 'Just You'. They do short break in UK and abroad. You won't have time to dwell on your situation. You'll be too busy making new friends and having a great time! Have travelled all over the worl on my own. Still doing so at 72. Met some great characters even in their 80s on single holidays. They're NOT dating sites if you're worried about that.

I am going on this in the early part of July, on my own! The only thing is I do have to pay a single supplement of £50 but I’m afraid that is par for the course

My older sister (long gone) travelled the whole world, on her own, after she retired Never married, never wanted to. And she travelled light. …. 4 or 5 changes of clothes, 2 bras, 6 panties ( washed them daily in the sink ), dried them over night …ready to move on. Didn’t stay in fancy hotels, just YWCAs. Left more than a million Dollars to Charity. Left token amounts to her nieces and nephews…..the family often wonders how she managed to save so much on a teacher’s salary. Frugality, probably.
If you’re brave enough, go for it. Start off with a coach trip in this country and then move on to more adventurous solo holidays. Good luck !

Hi, I have been on a boot camp in Portugal and also a yoga camp in Spain. Totally loved them both and met like minded ladies, especially at the Yoga camp. I love my hubby, we holiday well but occasionally do something separate and it's so good for us and my independence. You can do this, you are woman ?

Sounds like an excellent idea. Find something that interests you and consider a coach tour. A short trip to put your toe in the water so to speak. Nothing ventured......

I feel for you Notjustaprettyface as my OH is not doing too well , mentally or physically, since Heart Failure diagnosis last year.
Once we were over the initial shock and things started to settle down I made sure I got back to my usual routine of outings/meetings/groups etc. Maybe him knowing I was going to do these things helped him as he had to look after himself. Obviously if he was really not too well I wouldn't go out but when I did go it could range from 2 hours, community garden, up to 7 hours, Quilting Group, lunch and friends day. Always made sure i had my mobile with me.
I've also had a weekend with my daughter .
What I'm saying is, get out and do your thing. If your OH is just grumpy you need a break. Maybe a holiday is a big first step but if you feel he's ok to look after himself, or you have help for him arranged, then go for it.
PS I think an activity break would be great, you'd be busy, have company and it could be a weekend or a week.

In your situation I would not be too adventures at the moment. Why not take a bus / train to a a town close by and have just one or possibly two nights away? That way you will probably be in familiar surroundings
and benefit from a much needed and well deserved break . A short break close to home may enable you to recharge. You may want to be alone or perhaps you could take a friend with you ? Whatever you decide , enjoy and please switch off from the stress. Easier said than done I recognize that but give it a go ! Enjoy.

If this is your first trip by yourself, added to that you're not feeling your best just now ... then I would start with something very simple. Maybe a short coach trip as others have suggested. Be determined to be interested in where you are going - do a bit of research before setting off. Go and see a lovely old castle or something, walk in the fresh air, have coffee and cream cakes etc.

We all need to recharge our batteries from time to time.

As others have said a coach trip for a few days and see how it goes as a first step.

Do you have any hobbies or interests? There are lots of opportunities for weekends away to learn new skills or spend time with other like minded people while enjoying the same craft - such as craft courses, cookery classes etc. Also there are a few summer schools which offer a variety of educational courses, often held in University Halls of Residence or public schools.

This would give you time away from your husband without being lonely.

Have a look at HF holidays. Good if you like walking but other activities too. Great for solo travellers