Am I antisocial or just weird?

I live alone and would love to share my home with a real friend, or even with a relation who is congenial to me.
I am happy in my own company and love to be solitary but I lack a close friend type of relationship.
This is not the only online community I visit. I even more frequently visit two other special interest groups online. I I had a close friend type of relationship, as in times gone by,I don't think I'd do any online socialising.

I don’t live alone, but I do enjoy having the house to myself when DH goes away to visit his daughter.
At home we both do our own thing, but eat together and spend most evenings together, though without a lot of conversation.
I enjoy mixing with others, but escape as soon as I can. At that point, I think I am anti- social, but there comes a point where I just want to get home.

I'm pleased that so many of us feel the same.I go out and about,and do volunteering,but I wouldn't want to live with anyone,and I'm happy enough going out by myself.I think I feel that I can't be with the person I want to be with,my late husband,so I would rather be by myself.

I moved to a little terraced house in central Brighton and have lots of social activities available if I wish,but I just love getting home and being able to relax. I can't ever imagine wanting to live with anyone again, my home really is MY special place..

henetha

Yes, I've done coach holidays alone and love them. But strangely, I've made friends on the coach each time!

I'm the same Henetha. I make friends wherever I go. I think it's because others like people who are happy in themselves and not pushy/demanding. I never go looking for friendship, but it always seems to find me.

I don't live alone, but wish I did. I've loved it when I have. I didn't get lonely, and if I do, I go out somewhere where there are people around. That was enough for me. Hopefully, my DD will move out this year and then I can live alone again.

MadeInYorkshire

For various reasons after I sold my house where I had lived for 10 years alone, but mainly for health reasons needed to be closer to my daughter, when I got to my new house, they all moved in! Then I had to have my eldest back from uni as due to her illness she had to give it up. So there's now 6 of us here, and it's chaos!!

Going to release equity in order to make it right for all concerned so fingers crossed I can get enough to do it all!

Why did you buy a house big enough for all to move in when it’s just you? Surely with health issues downsizing would have been a good idea. Wouldn’t it have been best to buy small and keep the equity you had in the bank? Now you have the hassle and expense of equity release.

Maybe people who don't or haven't ever lived on their own don't get it. But I have lived on my own for 20 years [since early 50's] and I love it. I'd had relationships all my life so it did take a period of adjustment I admit. Wouldn't have it any other way now.

Visitors are welcome [not for too long] but not to stay overnight. I'm happy in my own company, lots of interests and don't ever want to live with anyone ever again.

Home is my haven, my sanctuary where I can be who I am. No one to comment or give opinions. I live to my own timetable and agenda. I only enjoy socialising with family and one friend now and find that's enough. Always been an introvert though, need a lot of peace and quiet and long periods on my own.

I've had more company than I'm comfortable with, in the past 18 months. DD, adult GD, 2 dogs and a houseful of their furniture lived with me for 6 months while their new house was renovated (many delays to supplies and labour due to Covid)
They hadn't long moved out when the travel restrictions were lifted, and I was off to Australia to visit all the family. It was a joy to finally meet my 2 year old GS, and spend time with everyone. However my 3 months are almost up. Though it will be a wrench to leave them all it will be so good to get back to my peaceful house, and back to pleasing myself again.
I've lived alone since my DH died 6 years ago, and enjoy my own company. I like to socialise, on my own terms, but it's bliss to be able to close the door and do exactly what I want to do, when I want to do it. I could never share on a permanent basis again, and never feel lonely.

SallyHa

I like this , it resonates with me x I miss the company of my husband but don’t want anyone else x

Yes thank you for posting that. I'm the same here being widowed 4 years ago

Yes you're totally weird ...just like me!! ?

I love my solitude and my home. All of mine are grown and living their own lives.

We are in regular contact though. I look after 2 of my grandchildren weekly to help with childminding.

My 2nd son of my 4 has only just left home. He was the last one at 33 to go. For various reasons he was at home for much longer.

It's been odd him not being here at times however I'm loving it!

I'm not home alone willingly. My late husband passed 4 years ago unexpectedly.

Other than my late husband I could never live with anyone again either.

This is my home, my sanctuary and where I can just be.

I like this , it resonates with me x I miss the company of my husband but don’t want anyone else x

It's not selfish to want your own space; some people are more introverted and need to decompress after being with others; it can be draining to be in a crowd, nothing wrong with enjoying your own company!

I feel the same, love having visitors especially family and I do entertain at home quite a lot. My brother and sil come and stay over nearly every weekend and I do enjoy their company but the longer my sil is here, the more she tries to take over!!! She is the Matriarch in her family and both her 96 year old dad and her five younger siblings all allow her to organise their lives and depend on her in so many ways, whereas I am very independent, so we did clash in the early days, but she has mellowed with age, as most probably have I, and she gave up trying to dominate me years ago, altho I do sometimes have to remind her “my home, my rules”!!! I do sometimes heave a little sigh when they leave, I love my peaceful solitude!

I have never lived alone, I would love it - no one to say 'you read too much' or 'why aren't you weeding?'

I feel exactly the same - my home is my space and I don't really like it invaded. A very few friends are exceptions to this and are welcome.

So you're a residential loner, I don't see the problem?

Oh I pray for the day when my only responsibility is whether I eat today or just stay in bed. I’ve never lived alone …. but I did have a six week taste of it recently …and I loved it…. I can’t wait.

I’m lonely sometimes and have found my thyroid level is down, all hormones
There are many people types afterall no wrong or right but for me who is social person I know it’s my hormones when want to tuck away from the world, first started as a teenager at pmt!
Flippin hormones aye
Need space soMetimes but not for long

I,m the same .In my late 60;s My husband died 8 years ago and I’ve lived alone since . I don’t think I could ever live with someone again .I’ve got to used to beeing independent .

Amen!!!

Thank you ladies for making me feel better about being on my own! I have a chronic illness that means I am in bed 90% of my life and have a husband, but spend so much time on my own. 4years ago my husband had a stroke so we have separate rooms, and I guilty enjoy my time on my own….it’s been a revelation to me to find I enjoy my own company, so to know a lot of you live very happily alone actually makes me feel better. I miss people dreadfully but have carers in so I do socialise and of course with my husband. I am hugely relieved….

I felt the same way but when my husband died in February 2021 but now I feel the same as you. I had my grand daughter with me for 6 weeks and I was so glad when she went home. I feel a bit guilty as I have two spare bedrooms and felt I should have a Ukranian as my neighbours have. But I don't want to risk a stranger in my home on my own.

I love living alone since my divorce, it's just me and the dog. My friends are all wishing I could meet someone and can't understand why in my mid 50s I would want to be in my own for the rest of my days. I had an op in April and my sister and her dog came to stay and I couldn't cope. I was thankful in one way that I had her there as I was fainting a lot, but she had the TV on constantly and left her stuff lying about everywhere. I couldn't wait until she went back home again and I got the house back to myself. I will never live with anyone again.

I love being on my own and now that my husband has retired I savour the moments I get even more. You’re not weird at all, I think it’s a good thing to enjoy solitude x