Am I antisocial or just weird?

Yes I totally identify with this unfortunately my house is like Clapham junction and not on a strike day!
I have to factor in quiet times, sometimes literally in a darkened room!

Madwoman11

When I was younger my fear was to have to live alone, but I have now lived by myself for several years and know I could never live with anyone again. I don't even like people staying overnight.
I do have a good social life but my home is my space. I do have some health problems and I'm in my late sixties. Does anyone else feel the same?

Yes, yes, yes! After years of looking after and pandering to others needs it’s great to be able to please myself and do what I want

I wouldn't say never, but since I was diagnosed (Asperger's) I realise why I like to be alone so much. I do like to get out and be involved in social activities, but then I need a day off to recover.

I live with my DH, when he worked he was often away from home and I like my own company. When we moved to a very popular area I told my DH I was not running a B&B.
DD's and their family I don't mind,BIL and family I can tolerate for a night no more.
I have lost numerous friends through not taking the hint for them to stay and never wanted to go back and visit them.
I like my own space and my own company and have always put it down to being an only one.
I see nothing wrong in doing what is right for yourself.
If I am left alone I will move to somewhere with more facilities nearby. Having had DH ill for a few weeks I realise how much I rely on him for Dr's, prescriptions etc. We don't even have a small shop in the village.
This feeling was amplified a few weeks ago when we visited DH she has bought a townhouse with all facilities a walking distance. If I run out of milk it is a fourteen-mile round trip.
Do what makes YOU happy ,there is nothing wrong in pleasing yourself that is what everyone else is doing only in a different way to you.

I’m alway desperate to get home when I’ve put or away .
And I have a friend who has just moved so I visit and have to stay over. She’s welcoming but I hate it. I love to wake up in my own bed.

Personally I am antisocial and very happy to be so, I don't like people and can quite happily be described as a miserable old bag, ? though I make an exception for my grandchildren ?

When I was married I felt sorry for ppl that lived alone and now I’m divorced and my sons both married and living with their families and I’m on my own. I can spread out in my bed with out being snorted out, picking up dirty undies or having that bar of chocolate. My sons keep saying mum you should find yourself a nice man instead of being on your own. They don’t understand I don’t mind being on my own. I can go or do what I want without having to think about anyone but myself. Don’t get me wrong only time I felt lonely was in lockdown but think everyone did then. So no I’m happy single

biglouise ah yes I forgot to mention that I don't like workmen in my house either. I like to socialise outside my home. Happy days ?

I feel the same. Ive always lived alone apart from a brief marriage in my late 20s. Never wanted children. Had boyfriends since but never tempted to live with them. The relationships fizzled out because they were looking for something more.

I did a lot of travelling when I was younger but now I hate to have to mix with people. Ive got workmen coming into my home soon to do essential jobs but I cant wait for it to be over. Polite as they are they are not guests and my home is not the same with anyone else in it.

My experience is that when you get to a certain age you go one one of two directions:-

You become very lonely - probably because you had a partner and they have died or it broke up. So you make real efforts to speak to people, even strangers like the postman, parcel delivery etc.

You are your own person and dont really like people around you. In that case you really cannot be bothersd with them most of the time. You tolerate visitors but are glad when they go.

This latter is how I feel. You can be alone without being lonely.

Another here who lives alone and wouldn't have it any other way now. I love family and friends coming to visit, they can even stay a night or two if they want to; but I heave a sigh of relief when they leave.

I've always lived alone since leaving University nearly 50 years ago. Good grief, fifty.

I enjoy a bit of company but I love to come home.

In January I moved into a block of 34 supported living flats, and it's the best thing I've done. A communal lunch is included in the rent, and I enjoy the meeting and mingling. And then I love to come back and shut the flat door. Bliss.

I have lived on my own for many years now and love it.
I enjoy time spent with others but would not want to share my home with anyone else now.

Bluebelle you could be right regarding living with or married to **** ! I'm just loving and needing the no stress life ❤

Hmm, I’ve never lived alone but I do like my own space.
I am sociable but even if I am enjoying time with friends or family I sometimes have to retreat for some time on my own.
I can happily cope with close family staying in my house or to stay with them. I do not stay at friends houses or ask them to stay at mine. It doesn’t seem to cause a problem.
I lead a busy life but am also happy to spend time on my own.

DD decided when she was about 20 that she was too uncompromising to sustain a relationship or be a mother.

She has lived happily alone, now, for nearly 30 years. She is a happy and sociable person, but family are the only people who visit or stay with her. We are always welcome.

We had to nurse her for several months after a serious accident and found after the first few fraught weeks, that she was happiest to only have one of us with her at a time.

I can see no reason why anyone should have to defend a decision to live alone. In many ways I am like DD. For most of my (happily) married life, I had a DH who travelled a lot, so I frequently found myself alone, for days, week and on several occasions, months, and was as happy as Larry. If/when I become a widow, I will happily live alone for the rest of my life.

My greatest fear was to have to live alone ,it terrified me , then aged 52 my life changed and I left my marriage , those first years were lonely I worked at 3 jobs due to low income and to keep busy running away from myself , then slowly slowly as years passed I became more comfortable with myself and its now 18 years and I wouldn't change it . I like being self wise , I don't want to be running around looking after people as I did all my life . I love my own bed , my own kitchen and my own remote control

When my life changed aged 52 I remember thinking

My life has turned upside down
But feels the right way up

It did and it was

That is sad Luckygirl and adjustment to living alone after a long partnership must be very difficult. It’s nice to have someone to share thoughts, and just be there for you, its a space that friends, however lovely don’t really fill.

I suppose it’s a situation that those in all close partnerships will eventually face. The remaining one that is!

Luckylady and Karmalady pretty much outline my lifestyle and thoughts. Only difference is that, rather that feeling it tough being alone, I find it rather sad. I feel I'm living my second best life although decidedly comfortable and sociable. C'est last vie..........

I am mid 60s, divorced and I love living alone now the family have all grown up and moved out. I’m on edge even when one of them stays the night, just hearing someone using the bathroom and kitchen, up and down the stairs, talking in their phone. And I loathe sleeping anywhere else, I don’t go on holidays and if I ever visit family I always decline the invitation to stay the night.

I don’t have visitors, my home is my sanctuary with my dog and cats, and I wouldn’t change a thing.

I love living alone! I don't have to share anything. I'm in charge of the remote control for the telly. ? I have a double bed to myself. I do what I want when I want. I occasionally have dgs1 to stay for a sleepover but that's it. I have enough friends to be sociable. When on holiday, I look forward to being home. I have been lonely but that was in a difficult marriage.

Me too. My home is my safety net full of memories, some good some bad. I go out weds, Thurs, Fridays. My sister calls for breakfast and a catch up Saturday mornings and Sundays are reserved for one or the other of my children and their families. Mon and Tues are my me days and I love them. Pottering in my home and garden catching up on chores while listening to the radio. I see my neighbours most days and on those two days often pop round for a cuppa or they come to mine. Yes I am alone but no way am I lonely. ?

I doubt hermits were ever called selfish.

There is a vast difference between being alone and being lonely.
I used to live alone but as I worked full time I didn't have the time to feel lonely. My job was often challenging and it was bliss to come home to peace and quiet and only having to please myself.
I think it is important to maintain what we are comfortable with and I think that karmalady sums this up very well. Even if we do live alone a cheery smile and a 'good morning' greeting speaks volumes.

I don’t live alone but the house is very peaceful when it’s just me and dh, with enough space that we’re not on top of each other - I do need my P and Q. After any length of time with a lot of people I love returning home.

I have a dd who’s the opposite - the more people the merrier, almost non stop. She certainly didn’t get it from me! My DF and MiL were both intensely sociable, though, so I blame them. ?

I ve lived alone about 25 years and no way could I ever live with anybody now, I am very sociable and out and about going to things, meeting people, doing voluntary work having lunches out etc I love being sociable but don’t want anyone in my house more than a few hours I even love getting home if I go away I can’t wait to get back it’s like a rabbit scurrying down their rabbit hole that’s me
My safe place my therapeutic place, it’s mine and only mine
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