Cannabis smoking neighbour

Have a little compassion and understanding

For him or for children being brought up in a fug of drugs?

I think you are going a little far with the 12 joints a day, he wouldn’t be standing .
As for stinky your house out I can’t imagine what he’s smoking for it to be that bad. Just ask him to move to the furthest point away from your house he’ll be that mellow he won’t mind.?

Welcome to 2022 unfortunately I didn’t know what the smell was when I moved into my current property and I actually phoned it as a repair. I thought something was wrong with my air conditioner. It was a workman that informed me what it was. You just to walk down the street now and you get that smell. Workman said that they were aware of my neighbor but he suffers with metal health issues. But he’s a lovely man quiet and really helpful and so I turned a blind eye. But now got someone else moved in next door on other side and whatever he’s on is disgusting smell. I’ve reported him and nothing was done. I now have blasting music etc 24/7 and even my weed smoking neighbor have complained. So you got two choices put up with it or move by the way I’m waiting to move home.

Oh my, can’t you live and let live, my brother in-laws both are
In the job, and inform me that more of their workmates smoke this than don’t, ..it will be legal in another year or two as todays cigarettes which are much more harmful will be faded out
…be kind

Poor chap. He’s got such a lot to deal with.
You could have much worse neighbours.
Maybe just quietly tell him that you can smell it,but no more.

The biggest issue for me is his driving while certainly under the influence of a drug. His judgement will be impaired and terrible consequences could result. A dilemma for you for sure but imagine if someone close to you suffered and you had done nothing. I know many of you won't like my opinion but it has to be said.

I’m surprised at the comment about a joint smelling like a bad dog fart. I used to smoke cannabis fairly regularly and it had a pleasant herbal smell. It wasn’t skunk though, don’t know what that smells like.
This poor chap seems like he’s doing his best, but perhaps he could switch to eating a cannabis cookie, obviously keeping them well hidden away from his children so that you’re not bothered by the smoke.
I though a small amount for personal use was allowed these days?

I’m surprised at the comment about a joint smelling like a bad dog fart. I used to smoke cannabis fairly regularly and it had a pleasant herbal smell. It wasn’t skunk though, don’t know what that smells like
I have never smoked it but yes, fragrant and not unpleasant, therefore my thought that it is skunk.

I think you should feel sorry for him. He's bringing up 3 children on his own (not many men would do that). I'd just close my windows and give him a break. Many people smoke cannabis.

Garlicky cabbage, I'd say.

You are doing lots to support and it sounds like you have been a good neighbour. I work in the NHS in a safeguarding children role (children in care).
There’s is help available for families who are struggling, they wouldn’t automatically be taken into care unless they were in imminent danger. However, he clearly needs support and if he is willing to accept it and change some of his behaviours, there is no reason why things shouldn’t work out for the family. I would speak to him again about this. You can always phone social services to discuss this issue in principle before you speak to him.
Good luck

Just ask him politely to go to end of garden then when no one is looking you can share his spliff. ! I would !

Ask him to smoke it away from your house. Tell him it makes your husband feel ill. For heaven’s sake, don’t report it to the Police. He has enough on his plate and it’s nowhere near as much of a problem as legal drugs!

i would have a polite word with him explaining the smell comes in your house and is effecting your husbands health he sounds a nice neighbour so he should understand,

Smoking weed around kids isn't ideal and today's varieties, ie skunk, tend to be much more potent than the pot of yesteryear.

On the other hand, before you shop him you need to think of the possible consequences. If he is arrested for possession, which might happen as he has evidently had dealings with the law in the past, what will happen to the children? Would they really be better off in care, or fostered by people that they don't know, than with their dad who smokes weed but otherwise sounds like he is doing a pretty good job of bringing them up?

If he isn't arrested but does (improbably) give up weed, what is likely to happen? People who abuse one substance as a form of stress relief tend to take to another, as the stress itself hasn't gone away. If he didn't smoke pot, it's quite likely that he would use alcohol instead. It's not illegal to drink alcohol, so there would be nothing you could do about it. It might even be more pleasant for you, as the smell of booze wouldn't drift into your garden. But what about the kids?

Weed tends to make people passive and disconnected. (Not ideal for his line of work, I agree.) Alcohol has the same effect on some people but, as we all know, for a lot of people it has the opposite. The children's home life could be very much worse if dad drank rather than smoked.

I am not saying that that would invariably happen. Just that it very often does, when people are self-medicating... and that's often the reason for substance abuse in the first place.

Right now you are on reasonably good terms with this neighbour, so mention calmly to him that your husband is unfortunately allergic to cannabis smoke and detests the smell of it as well. Suggest your neighbour smokes at the other side of his house to your place.

You could warn him too that you worry lest any other neighbour reports him for smoking it, as since 2009 all recreational use of cannabis is illegal in the UK. After all it only needs one of his children to mention it at school for the matter to be reported, as school teachers are obliged to report anything a child lets slip about their home life that is illegal.

A warning of this kind cannot be construed by your neighbour as a threat.

I would at the same time make a definite offer of when the children could go out with you for the afternoon, or come in to your place, so he could have a couple of hours to himself.

In the privacy of his own home I think he is ok to smoke dope. I was amazed recently when my neighbour shoved his registered cannibas user card at me when I complained although I don't think it means he can grow his own!!

Stella14

Ask him to smoke it away from your house. Tell him it makes your husband feel ill. For heaven’s sake, don’t report it to the Police. He has enough on his plate and it’s nowhere near as much of a problem as legal drugs!

Me too lol ?

Ask him to move to the bottom of the garden to smoke, or to go into his shed if he has one - talk to him! If he knows it is offensive to you I would imagine he'll happily comply. I know it's illegal but please, you are not forced to call the police on him, especially as you know his circumstances! He sounds like he's doing his best and at least smoking a joint will keep him calm. Better that than being a drunk.

Thanks for all the supportive responses.
I'm not intending to shop him, as I wouldn't want the children to lose their remaining parent, if that might be a possible outcome, nor would I want to add further difficulties to his life.
He was actually supervised by my husband some years ago, and in fact recognised my husband first, rushed up to him to shake his hand and ask if Mr GrowingOld remembered him. My husband always seemed to have the respect of the people he supervised, and that seems to be the case here.
I also used to supervise a service user who was on 10-12 spliffs a day so it is possible for use at that level though that particular person was so laid back they were almost horizontal....and somewhat out of touch with reality.
Perhaps once his mum has come into the picture to help, I'll stick my head round the door and ask for her view on what we can do to be helpful, as that might be better coming from her to him.
In the meantime, as we are on quite good casual chatting terms, I think we will go with a casual "hey Joe (not his real name), when you're smoking that stinky stuff, would it be possible to do that a bit further away, as it's making Himself feel rough".

I am reading all the answers closely as I too have the same problem with my neighbour and when I went to bed last night my bedroom was absolutely reeking. I’m all for people doing what they want at home but not when it impacts a neighbour. I am fed up having to close my windows on hot summer nights. He is welcome to destroy his health but I don’t want mine affected. I really understand.

I wouldn’t be able to live and let live. It’s illegal and that’s the end of it. We shouldn’t have to tolerate this on our doorsteps.

it smells awful, hence why it is called SKUNK. Police are not interested ,for the most part, in cannabis. If it is heroin or cocaine, thats a different story. My neighbour also smokes skunk ,many times throughout the day. Best thing u can do is have a word and let him know how its affecting you. Cannabis smokers will not stop using because neighbours know. Sad, but true, I also have to close windows etc.

Why don't you treat him like a responsible adult and just tell him how you're feeling? Why infantisise him by involving his mother? It is quite possible that he just doesn't know that he is offending you...

I dont think smoking skunk in his house is the answer, remember he has children. My neighbour smokes in shed, garage, but, makes no difference. It STINKS