Granddaughter and partner issues

I have read a similar post before. Have you posted about this a while ago? Depends on how much you love him I suppose. He is behaving like a spoilt child and trying to force your hand. Many men are like this - sulk and try to get their own way. Having this issue myself though not about the GC. Sometimes think it would be better, easier and happier without DH but then think it's me. I guess only you can decide.

Your partner behaves far worse than Your granddaughter.

He is acting abusively

Perhaps you should think about letting him leave.

I'm so sorry you have to deal with this

Let him bugger off, you'll all feel better for it. Bet the little girl will notice the difference too - very intuitive kids you know.

Beware Ganny2!!!!!!!

It's not only the eight year old who is being childish and she is allowed because she is a child and has had a difficult start to her life.

Your OH is behaving in a very immature way.
It's a form of bullying and control.

I agree and perhaps you should think long and hard about your partners attitude towards an 8 year old child and of course his attitude towards you. He is putting you in an impossible situation with your son and his fiance. You recognize the child has challenging behaviour and you are to be commended for trying to help the child. Of course you can' t tell your son that the child can not come - if you did that you are at risk of losing your son !! Is that what your partner wants ? As for sleeping in another room and threatening to leave ???? That seems to me to be scare tactics to get you to side with him and cause trouble between you and your son and his fiance. Forgive me for making these assumptions but this is my gut feeling. Surely if he loves you he would not behave in this way and cause you so much anxiety. His behaviour smells of abuse to me and I urge you to stop and take stock of your relationship. Feels like a control issue to me - take care !

Sorry but I don’t take to your partner much, a grown man jealous of an 8 year old Perhaps it would be better if he had the weekend away when she comes All kids act up
A weekend once every two months isn’t much he needs to grow up perhaps he isn’t the man you thought he was

I think your partner is being unreasonable as you only have the child to stay every couple of months. It seems you have reached an impasse now as you have tried to talk to him and explain things.
It is a great shame that a 14 year relationship should end this way. His reaction does seem excessive, is there any underlying reason for his apparent dislike of the child.

Does your partner rule the roost in your family?
Of course an 8 year old is going to play up sometimes; they all do, because they are children.

Your partner has issues not just with this child but also in his relationship with you. It sounds as though he emotionally punishes you and blames an 8 year old as a reason and excuse for his abusive behaviour.
Well done for trying to connect to the child who is probably reacting to the tension within the household and that could be the reason for her behaviour which could indicate insecurity.
Maybe you need to reevaluate your relationship with your partner and question why he is reacting this way to you and whether you consider it acceptable or abusive.