Platonic friendship?

I suppose the question is, if your partner took your phone now, and read the messages, would they be perfectly happy with the friendship?
Or does it teeter around the edge of a acceptable at times?

Agree with Elizabeth27. Sadly there are a lot of men and women who seem to think there has to be sex involved in every male/female relationship. And if people aren't having sex they are probably hankering after it. Says far more about what is going on in their minds than what is actually happening.

My friend married my ex-fiance and we're all good friends. He stops here when he's passing for business and often stays the night. To think we are still lusting after each other would be totally ludicrous.

Let me make it absolutely clear here, if I thought it would have a detrimental effect on my wife or her husband I would call a halt to it. We are very happily and well and truly married soul mates.

Thanks Ro 60 and Misadventure. Something to think about - it doesn’t feel wrong but maybe it has the potential to go wrong.

I wouldn't like it if I was the partner of one of them.

My view: yes it's wrong. Obviously, I don't know you but - you asked the question so here's my reponse.

Your wife might say she's ok with it - but ...
So there's still an attraction there, after all these years you still feel you have things in common - enough to rekindle a freindship.
Dangerous ground. Your friends are right.

Thanks Scribbles. You are right. It’s time to ignore them now after asking them to quieten down over it. That didn’t work and I know, I shouldn’t have told them. (Typical male).

That says more about them than your situation, I would say to them in their partners hearing that it is odd that they could not have a platonic friendship with somebody.

A long time ago Davida. We’re now in our late 70’s and been married for over 55 years, so not exactly loves young dream.

Well, if it is simply a friendship and you're not trying to rekindle old flames, and your wife is content with the situation, then of course it's not wrong.
Why are you even discussing it with other friends? It's none of their business! Put your phone on silent when you're with those other friends so they won't feel the need to ask, "Who's that from?" when a message arrives.

Hmm.... I'd say "it depends". There's a range of factors that would need to be considered, IMO. More information is needed: such as ages of persons involved (then & now!) & how long a relationship it was. (Months? Years?) And how many years ago? Lots to think about.....

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Absolutely Ginny. It’s all above board. It’s the perpetual jokes and sexual innuendo from friends I don’t like, especially if my wife is present. They have latched on to the situation and won’t let it rest. I should never have told them.

It depends entirely on your wife. Personally, because I am not as nice as your wife, I wouldn’t like it.

I don’t see a problem as ling as your wife and her husband are happy with the arrangement. I presume your spouses are welcome to see / hear any conversations or correspondence between you and you friend.

My wife is ok with it but my friends are not and keep making fun of it and making out that it cannot possibly be platonic!