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Relationship with DIL

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imaround Mon 18-Jul-22 02:16:22

All I can suggest is to NEVER discuss politics or religion or sexual orientation with people these days. It used to be that we could disagree but that day has passed. It sounds as if it is bad in the UK, it is horrible here in the US as well. My own sister and I finally agreed not to discuss politics because things would get tense.

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poshpaws Mon 18-Jul-22 01:58:46

How's this making your son feel? Because to be honest if your DIL is as bad as she sounds - her brother sounds nuts, frankly - why would you bother with her if you can still have a good relationship with your son? Are there grandkids? If so, could you see them just with your son visiting with them?

Her brother's reaction was on him entirely and not a rational response to a genuine question.

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denbylover Mon 18-Jul-22 01:53:56

These ones who pack the huff in the face of any disagreement are tiresome. I agree with Mandrake, I would let things cool down
This young man will encounter views that differ from his own as he goes through life, if he gets in a titch and leaves a function following another difference of opinion, this suggests to me he has a lot of growing up to do.
These family upsets are distressing, I understand that.

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Mandrake Mon 18-Jul-22 00:53:46

I'd give it some cooling off time before broaching it again. Right now, emotions are too high and more damage is likely too be done.

You are not at fault for your DIL's brother reacting the way he did or leaving the party. That is on him.

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Millertime Mon 18-Jul-22 00:51:29

I am struggling with my daughter in law. We have had several “incidents”, none of which I was at fault for, but until this last one, I always “fell on the sword”. But this last one was provoked by a ridiculous rant by her brother on a political topic (transgender rights). I simply asked him “what if” question and he completely lost it. I had no clue that my question would trigger such an angry outburst. My daughter in law blames me for him leaving the party (my granddaughters first birthday) and has refused to talk to me. I finally had to ask her to stop sending me angry texts. After I repeatedly asked if we could talk and she said no. I’m at a loss as to how to proceed.

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