A man who never sees his children

I think its weird that his children are 17 and 18 yet still blames their mom. Wheres he been?

It would give me the jeebz but if she's happy. Not much you can do!

As your D's partner's mother has "nothing good to say about her daughter" it does look as if the reason he's given for not having contact with his daughters is true FordAnglia.

They may be 17 and 18 but as they live with their mum, if them having contact with their dad would cause tension at home they maybe going along with it to keep the peace.

If your D is happy with this man, I wouldn't worry about it TBH.

Sadly lots of women use their children in divorce. Shocking and I wish more could be done about it.

Sadly, so do lots of men.

Sadly lots of women use their children in divorce. Shocking and I wish more could be done about it.

Perhaps he is friendly with his exes Mum as this is the only way he has influence? He's hoping he may get news, hoping his exes Mum may put pressure on her daughter, etc.

Is the maternal grandmother seeing her grandchildren?

The daughters are obviously siding with their mother, I do not find it strange that they would do that. When they have grown up a bit and have some distance from their mother things may be different.

Can't judge as no proper picture of everyone's perspective!

But if her mum(teenagers maternal grandmother) is regularly seeing their father and possibly making remarks etc I can definitely see how two older teenagers might take their mothers "side, whether what they "know" is true or fair. I would be uncomfortable trusting someone who criticises her own daughter to her Ex too...! Why do that? Not helping anyone

Either way, I think you have to leave them all to it! And be there if YOUR daughter needs you!

You don't know enough to judge and you aren't involved with him. If your daughter is happy then that's fine. If she has problems with his attitude that's up to her as well. All you can do is listen when she wants to talk and love her.

I wouldn't pursue a relationship with someone who didn't see their offspring, particularly if it was all "someone else's" fault.

A father fights for his kids, doesnt use the mother of the kids as an excuse

If your daughter chooses to have kids with him - the writing is in the wall

However, not your circus, not your monkeys

I was in a similar position with one of my daughters, at the end of the day it wasn’t any of my business.