My elderly mother sometimes does things that she doesn’t want my elder sister to know, such as when she has given me some money, or when she’s been to the hospital and tells me and not her. I don’t know what to do, my sister has found out my mother gave me some money to help me out of a situation. Mum said what she does with her money is her business. Trouble is my sister has access to her accounts, which I didn’t know and now it’s caused friction. We’ve never been particularly close, she’s done things, especially during Covid that I disagreed with and that I felt put my mum at risk. Now I find out my mum has booked a holiday with her best friend that I didn’t know about. It doesn’t bother me but my sister is like, yes I knew!
My question is how do you stop my mum telling me one thing and my sister another? My sister says she hates secrets. TBH when my mum is not around I probably won’t be in contact with her it stresses me out too much. She lives closer to mum, I live about 200 miles away and visit as often as I can as I work full time. We have a family event soon and I don’t think she will talk to me at all.
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