My sister-in-Law and I were always pretty close. Married to two brothers, she still with hers (my marriage broke up twenty five years ag), but we had our children at much the same time and became really friendly, a comfortable happy friendship.
I moved down to Somerset three years ago jsut a couple of years after she and hubbie moved to Suffolk. Long way from each other, but looked forward to her being able to visit me (have a spare room), When I was moving it was noticieable that she was having some bad short-term memory loss, By the time the Pandemic lifted and I was eager to invite to come to stay, I was being told by her daughter that her Mum was getting worse into demential - I ignored that and last summer we had a pleasant few days together. Some problems with having to remind her of some things, but okay.
I have been asking for her to to come this year, (she, obviously does not drive any more), FInally got an arrangement for someone to bring her for a couple of day, and have been so looking forward to. My eldest daughter did try to warn me that she was far worse and it might be too much for me, and I just poo-poohed it.
So, she came Monday morning, and has just left - and I am in tears. The person I knew (my friend and confident), just no longer exists. It has been such a difficult 48 hours. Yes, we could talk about things from the long past, but for the rest I was on edge the whole time. At least four or five times in each, she wanted to telephone the person who brought her down (he is a family friend who does take her to all sorts of places), to ask about the arrangements for going home. I had typed out a large sheet informing her she was staying with me, giving exactly times and dates she would be going back. She took no notice of this. We went over the same conversations so very, very many times, and I was really scared to let her out of my sight if we went out. The guest bathroom here is directly opposite the guest bedroom, but I had to leave the light on in there the whole time, as could not find it (I live on one level in a flat).
I know I am only saying what others have said, that this is such a cruel illness, as I now feel that I in mourning for her, exactly as if she had died.
I just feel that I needed to vent off how I feel. I know I will never again have her to stay with me, not fair for either of us. Although I do think she really enjoyed her stay here - I most definitely did not.
Good Morning Friday 25th April 2024
Heated Brush recommendation,please.
Last weekend, in Rutland, the first statue in Britain of the late Elizabeth II was unveiled.