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So petty of me in the great scheme of things but....

(37 Posts)
Grammaretto Fri 16-Sept-22 18:36:19

Ugh! How mean and rude.

Madgran77 Fri 16-Sept-22 18:31:21

They are not friends. Why waste your time when you could be doing something you enjoy!!

Luckygirl3 Fri 16-Sept-22 18:27:38

Not petty - your "friend" was insulting and out of order. Of course it upset you.

henetha Fri 16-Sept-22 18:13:29

They are not real friends at all, are they. And I don't blame you for being hurt.

JaneJudge Fri 16-Sept-22 18:08:19

I'd have been upset too sad

Smileless2012 Fri 16-Sept-22 18:05:07

Life is too short Ravenscroft so enjoy the company of real friends.

LauraNorderr Fri 16-Sept-22 18:04:55

Could it be that the other two had paid for that friend previously and the friend owed them?
If so, it would have been polite to explain.
If not, it was mean and very rude.
Either way I’d try to forget about it and continue to enjoy your real friends.

Davida1968 Fri 16-Sept-22 17:58:36

I agree, L. My advice is; don't bother with these thoughtless people & simply focus on your REAL friends. Some years ago I made a similar decision (about one totally self-centred friend) & I've never regretted it. As you say, life is too short.

Sparklefizz Fri 16-Sept-22 17:47:44

Yes, LRavenscroft, life's too short. They are disappointing and not very nice friends, so let them go.

Greenfinch Fri 16-Sept-22 17:47:24

I can’t believe anyone would do that to you. Turn your back on them and enjoy life with your other friends.

Calendargirl Fri 16-Sept-22 17:45:25

Don’t sound like very nice friends.

LRavenscroft Fri 16-Sept-22 17:41:53

Just spent the afternoon having tea with three old friends who I have only seen three times since Covid lockdown and I came away feeling totally depressed. No one even bothered to ask how I was or let me get in a word edgeway and when it came to pay one paid for the other two and left me out. Not that I wanted her to pay for me but it was done with a flourish of I'll pay for you two and not you. So, my decision on this very petty matter is not to make myself available anymore. There is a world in turmoil, our Queen has passed away and we are facing a stormy winter. I am worth more than being in a group like this. I hasten to add that I have several other sets of friends who are a delight to spend time with. Life is too short.