So petty of me in the great scheme of things but....

Yuck. How rude and how horrible of them.
You're worth far more.
Don't waste any more time with them x

Well done. I’m sure your new friends will be much nicer and more thoughtful than the old ones. You’re going to be busy!

That's great to hear, Ravenscroft. Wishing you a happy time with the new group.

That's great news. Well done for taking that first step and going to the coffee morning ☕

It's not petty at all. Your "friends" don't sound very pleasant.

Well done LRavenscroft so glad you made the effort

That is lovely well done for going

Well done ravenscroft

That's good news, ravenscroft.

# Update - Great news! I took myself off to the the village hall coffee morning and got chatting to two delightful ladies who have invited me to the flower arranging group. Also chatted to another lady and her husband who are on the local village flower festival committee and they have asked me to be an active member of the group because of my interest in gardening. The point of this update - it is never too late to launch forth and seek new adventures. I came home feeling very happy and nothing like my encounter with my two old friends who were so mean to me the other day. Seek out what suits you. You are worth it!

Thank you, everyone for your messages of support. We are all worthy of being treated with respect and it is up to us to make the right choices for ourselves with whom we socialise.

You are right to ignore them in the future. I certainly found out who are really my friends during the lock down period and those who had just been using me as their social secretary for years.I have nothing to do with the latter now and feel happier for it.

How strange!
Keep to your delightful friends and forget these others. Life’s too short.

kircubbin2000

Lots of people are like this. I joined a bridge 4 and one lady left me out of all the conversations by talking about people I didn't know and events the other 2,who were her old friends,had attended.She made no effort to get to know me.

But the OP says they were old friends, so this is quite different. I agree they are not worth keeping, OP.

I'd certainly take the hint.

Lots of people are like this. I joined a bridge 4 and one lady left me out of all the conversations by talking about people I didn't know and events the other 2,who were her old friends,had attended.She made no effort to get to know me.

With friends like that, who needs enemies. You’re well rid of them.

Nothing petty at all, downright rude and you’re well out of it.

Very sorry to hear, but not surprised you came away feeling upset. Don't make a rash decision, and take a few days to consider your options. Perhaps organise something on your own terms next time and leaving the one out?!?

Nasty,nasty thing to do and I would not be forgiving it… I would cut all ties with her straight away but that’s me..

They are not friends. I would rather be on my own than feel excluded.

Sounds as though there was parity and presidence amongst the other three at the table. Fair enough. But the one paying didn’t explain and so you felt awkward and excluded from ‘the group’. Understandably so.

Some people just have no self awareness. I don’t even know why I’m surprised any more by some people’s crass behaviour. It beggars belief at times.

You’re well out of it OP.

Yes, very rude and cruel too. I don’t think you’re being petty. Time to move on with your other friends.

Madgran77

They are not friends. Why waste your time when you could be doing something you enjoy!!

Absolutely agree with Madgran

Who organised the meet-up?