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Fiancé dislikes my adult children

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VioletSky Sun 02-Oct-22 16:00:21

How do they disrespect you?

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nadateturbe Sun 02-Oct-22 15:58:42

This is not going to work
Be honest with yourself.
I see stressful times ahead if you stay with him.

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Callistemon21 Sun 02-Oct-22 15:50:38

He in turn says that they are like snakes and can’t be trusted

Doesn't bode well, does it.

No-one would call my DC snakes - he'd be through that door so fast he'd be tumbling, his belongings following him.

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Stingrey Sun 02-Oct-22 15:49:50

Yes but just to provide more feedback. They have always walked over me and showed no respect to me. He says if they will disrespect me they will sure disrespect him. And they have. So he said I have tried more than 3 times..I’m not anymore. They live their own lives away from the house. Should I disrupt mines because they hardly call or talk to me. Only if they need something from me.

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VioletSky Sun 02-Oct-22 15:38:12

This is a really difficult situation.

I think it needs to be talked through.

Find out why your children don't like him.

Even if they have no good reason to dislike him, his behaviour isn't great either honestly

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Germanshepherdsmum Sun 02-Oct-22 15:35:17

Get rid. It’s not going to work.

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Stingrey Sun 02-Oct-22 15:32:15

Hello,
After 14 years from my divorce I finally found someone and started to date. I have 3 kids and the oldest 2 definitely does not like him and he doesn’t like them either. He has tried to reach out but my kids have been rude and disrespectful to him. He in turn says that they are like snakes and can’t be trusted. I am torn in between both. After all these years I wish they both can put me first and try just for me.. but they feed off each other. And it’s just very uncomfortable. I have to tell my adult kids to say hi and be cordial. And he hates that. He says that they should have enough respect to greet with salutations. And now he lives with me and does not feel like my adult kids who don’t live with me should have open access to the house because they don’t live there. Should I give up on my relationship? He says that he will not go to any family functions if they are there. That hurts. I know they have been rude and disrespectful but I wish he would just hold my side and be there for me. Should I let him go before we get married?

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