O dear. Didn't you ever discuss this before you both retired? I only retired last Friday and hubby only 6 weeks before me, so to be honest it's all new for us, but we do basically want the same things. We love spending time in the home albeit him in the garden/greenhouse, me indoors with my crafting and reading. We both also enjoy holidays. ~Our main difference is money. Over the years we've helped our 2 children out a lot and now we're helping the grandchildren, with loans for cars etc. I feel that they should all pay back a bit, so they learn what money's about, but not all of it, while hubby insists that every penny is paid back. He never had anything as a child as his parents simply wasted their money, so I think he wants to hang on to what he's got. I really don't know what the answer to your problem is, but talking about splitting up because of this seems a bit severe.