My grown up Son works/lives at the other side of the country but gets 2 weeks off at Christmas & pops home to see childhood friends etc. His home visits & my visits to him are very much cherished, I’ve always loved spending time with my children & have been, and still am a devoted Mum. He came home Dec 16th but was away locally at a wedding until 18th. Mon 19th to Thurs 22nd I barely saw him due to my work commitments (couldn’t get time off) & him being really quiet & spending time in his room. I was worried he was struggling with a health issue he is managing & got myself worked up into a right state worrying about him to the point of making myself feel really ill. This year, as I was working Christmas Eve & Christmas Day he made plans to spend the Christmas period with his gf & her parents, but that was then extended to be away 23rd-30th December. I had an awful time over Christmas & couldn’t feel any joy from being alone, working from home, but mainly worrying about him & if he was ok. I had thought he would come back a few days earlier than the 30th as we had made a loose arrangement for him to do presents with his nephew on the 28th and he knew I was off work that date. He was out the first & second night he & his gf got back back home, gone before I finished work & the third night (tonight) we ordered a chinese takeaway after I finished work & 45 minutes after eating it he & his gf went to watch tv in bed. I feel it’s like a hotel to them, they came here for their NYE plans with friends. The house is an absolute tip, piles of their things everywhere. They are lazy about clearing up after themselves. I’m upset, confused & worried all rolled into one. He managed to have a good time, I’m sure, with all the plans he went through with. It’s just around me he seems super sad. I’ve always been really supportive & he knows this, so he knows he only has to ask & im there for him, whatever he needs. I’m lost with it all, would of said we were quite close before this Christmas break. At this point I havnt so much as had a Christmas card from him when I know full well that he made a massive effort with presents for his gf parents as I was the one who wrapped them all for him. Thankyou for reading.
