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AussieGran59 Sat 04-Feb-23 05:53:37

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BlueBelle Sat 04-Feb-23 05:05:09

What a dreadful blow for you all, all I can think is that it would have been exactly the same if he had met a new woman to excitedly go off and start a new life with, wouldn t it?

Your wonderful levelheaded daughter and mum to your grandkids has done everything right for the children
It’s been a big blow to you all and you are all doing the right thing It’s been a shock and you need to regroup your thoughts which will not be quick or easy I hope you have a close friend or friends that -you- can share your hurt and upset with.outside the close knit family

Its sad that he felt the need to do all this so quickly …..I ve changed, I m going, I m publicly announcing it, I m divorcing seemingly in one move with no clues or signs leading up to this huge, huge change in everyone’s lives it feels very selfish, however nice he is.

There’s nothing I can say except I m so sorry for your situation you sound such a lovely (sensible) family you will get through this but it’s a huge shock for you all at the moment

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MayBee70 Sat 04-Feb-23 04:43:28

Oh how sad. Your daughter has held herself together for the sake of her children but as you said, she will crack at some point ( I always think of Eleanor Rigby when things like this happen). I do think that men see relationships in a different way: when my husband left us he said it was between him and me and the children had nothing to do with it: he couldn’t understand that it would affect them. And you’re having to be brave, too, and maintain a civil relationship with him even though I bet you’re seething inside. I remember lying awake night after night when my son was in a relationship that was falling apart. Children these days are very accepting of situations like this: I hope your grandchildren take it well flowers x

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lincolnimp Sat 04-Feb-23 03:45:39

Just 12 days ago my son in law announced to us that he has Come out, and is divorcing our daughter.
This was a total shock, as we had no idea that their marriage of 16 years was not rock solid.
Apparently last summer he began to explore the feelings that he was bisexual, then at the beginning of January declared to our daughter that he was homosexual and would be divorcing her.
Like the absolute trooper that she is she kept all of this to herself until he was ready to tell us.
They have 2 children, who are being told later today. not only about the divorce but the reason why.
He holds a very public position, and an announcement was made earlier this week. They will continue to live together for the time being, until he moves away.

I am so proud of my daughter, but I know that she will crack at some time.
She is making plans, looking for a house and a job, keeping life normal for the children because----as she says----she has no choice.
He is full of excitement at the prospect of a new life----being himself.

I am struggling because I really like him.
I am grieving for the life we. and my daughter thought was ahead.
He is a good parent to the children, and has been a good husband.

I think the thing that I find hardest is that he has made all the choices, he will be moving away, starting his new life, full of excitement at the possibilities ahead, and says that he is grateful to my daughter for being so gracious!!!

She has no choice .
She isn't a doormat, she is a strong woman who doesn't want to cause any more upset, especially for the children.
She wants them to keep a good relationship with their father, and we will support her all the way
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Sorry for the ramble, middle of yet another night when I can't sleep

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