I am really sorry to read about your present situation. Whilst not my husband, it was my two parents and father in law in their 90s, who brought me to a standstill. My father could be quite abusive threatening to disinherit me if I did not do my duty, my mother kicked me and insulted me as she had dementia, my father in law was infatuated with a women years his junior and was shovelling all his spare money into impressing her whilst we did all the caringand meanwhile my husband got grumpy if I spoke to him about it all. I went to see my GP and he told me that the problem should be shared and if I felt I could not cope to get the whole family and parents together and explain the situation. It is not just down to you. Like any team, it is about family. There is always the excuse that the children have their busy lives but often these lives include skiing holidays, children having to be taken to horse riding lessons, friends around for dinner. BUT your situation is vital for the survival of the older generation. In times gone by the whole family rallied. Now the responsibility falls on the shoulders of normally the spouse. Please speak out and stand up for yourself and express your needs to so that ALL your family are aware of what they can contribute. Sorry, if this sounds all a bit loud, but I allowed myself to be totally burnt out and it has taken SIX years to feel vaguely normal again, but, believe me, I avoid anyone outside the family who 'needs' me to drive them to anything, provide support etc as I 'need' me too! Wishing you all the very best!