Divorce. Solicitor suggestions

Same thing happened with my friend down Country. Her ex’s infamy went before him - local solicitors wouldn’t touch their divorce with a barge pole! They ended up using London based law firms which cost a lot of money, but a family business and millions were at stake. She’d kept records of his dealings and said she’d be prepared to go to prison, should she be forced to reveal them.

Germanshepherdsmum

Some are much more aggressive than others. I would suggest you look at London firms which deal only with divorce, rather than provincial firms. You will need deep pockets.

Brother is solicitor. He doesn't deal in divorce, says it's rather nasty business. Has advised a couple of friends to not struggle/ argue with their spouse, remain silent and above the conflict. Solicitor is your best friend now.

Never show your cards; allow spouse to be the a--e.

I'd begin by finding the best divorce solicitor, probably in a city (not village).

I'd take pictures of everything I could find, all possessions, all paperwork, all old records, texts of conversations with him on this topic. I'd email him and ask questions - answers in print.

I'd take on the good advice given by posters here.

Some are much more aggressive than others. I would suggest you look at London firms which deal only with divorce, rather than provincial firms. You will need deep pockets.

Contact the Law Society and get their list of fully qualified divorce solicitors.

Go online and look at reviews. The really good oens are really expensive.

Any competent divorce solicitor will be very used to spouses that are manipulatie, narcisstic bullies - and that is just some of their clients.

More seriously, I think the problems you raise are par for the course for most divorce lawyers.

I've not been in this situation but have worked in an office that dealt with it. Stick to you guns, don't be swayed, keep notes and diaries of EVERYTHING, and from other threads on GN make sure you don't end up looking after him if and when he needs it. I am truly sorry you are in this situation as no one deserves to be treated so badly but be strong, stand firm and above all look him right in the eye. Good luck with everything.

I can't help with a solicitor but if you know your husband has siphoned off money then you will need to tell him/her all you know. In a divorce one has to make full disclosure of all assets so he can't get away with it. If you have access to financial info make sure you take note of it. Having been divorced twice you have my sympathy, but you will get through it. Good luck!