husband doesn't like my baking...

My neighbour is always baking - but for her church, mainly, and the grandchildren. Her husband and eldest son just don't like cakes. (No, I simply can't imagine not liking them.)

I don't like sourdough things even from M&S so would never try to make them. I know what my husband likes so would bake what he liked or family liked. Mary Berry's lemon drizzle in baking with children is easy and delicious.
DD1 baked lots of vegan cakes and cookies for DGD's 6th party as 1 child was vegan. They did not taste anything like the non vegan things she bakes then DGS2 took an immediate allergic reaction to something in the vegan stuff and came out in hives all over which lasted for 4 days. I would say just bake things he likes or you like or experiment with different amounts of the ingredients.

silverlining48

I can’t even get a cake icon work

Here are some I made earlier!
🎂🎂🎂🎂🎂🎂

am I overreacting????
Probably spabbygirl
There's no point in expecting him to eat things he doesn't like.

As others have suggested, practise baking him some light sponges, lemon drizzle etc, portion and freeze in portions.
Bake soda bread, wholemeal goodies for yourself and ditto.

Our first row when we got married was over a pudding I made, he said he didn't like it and I got upset because I was trying to impress him with my cooking. But we'd only been married for a couple of months 😁
To be fair, I never did Home Economics at school although my Mum was a good cook.

Spabbygirl - your husband just doesn’t like cakes, I guess.. He loves you or he wouldn’t stay married. Your cakes will be appreciated elsewhere. Wish I lived near you …..

There's something lovely about giving a loved one something you've made yourself, so I don't think it unreasonable to hope for a little appreciation.

So glad I live on my own..

I think he’s just being honest

and be blimmin grateful for a home baked sponge, even if it does look like an oversized biscuit

Thank you Maw for my best chuckle of the day!

And spabby kudos to you for trying! I’d have knocked it in the head ages ago. You baked ... he didn’t like it ... fair enough. He doesn’t love your healthy cakes.
But I bet he loves you.
That’s what’s important. 😊

I feel a bit sad for you. Good luck with future efforts , if you intend to continue.

I'm not a baker. My DSs always preferred shop bought cakes. I am however great at pastry (no idea why) so if I want to make something that will get eaten I make a pie.
But there is so much you can do in retirement. I've joined the U3a as well and there is a great choice of groups.
Your local library or museum might have courses you could try as well. Have fun and explore everything.

If my husband doesn’t like something I cook I simply don’t serve it to him again, unless it’s capable of being changed to his liking.

No one do far has mentioned baking at my U3a group ....if they do I will keep quiet 🤫

Good for you spabbygirl.

thanks so much for that all!! I think if someone cooked for me I'd be jolly grateful, of course it's upsetting to have someone belittle your cooking, hubby gets cross enough when someone doesn't like something you've done. Anyway, I'm going to get myself another hobby as you've suggested. Thanks everyone

thanks so much for that!!!

I also belong to our local U3A, which keeps me very busy. Also they are always looking for people to bake cakes for various meetings etc.

Germanshepherdsmum

So can I ‘rafichagran’. All this baked stuff isn’t healthy. ‘Loading up the table with all sorts of baked goodies’ for your husband to scoff? Are you trying to kill him? Can’t you find another hobby?

Maybe there’s a cunning plan 🤔
Apologies if I’ve offended, couldn’t help it.

I think, for what it is worth that if we are meant to be speechless in wonder and impressed by their DIY skills, ability to diagnose mechanical faults under the bonnet or to mow lawns in nice wide stripes (Paw could do none of these) husbands should wear our hand knitted creations without grumbling, eat what we cook for them day in day out also without grumbling, and be blimmin grateful for a home baked sponge, even if it does look like an oversized biscuit.
If you want to bake as a hobby, have a coffee morning in aid of something you support and tell him to get his own cuppa.

My husband also is weird about my baking. I baked for people in the office & it was very appreciated (also at cake sales). But him & my mum have been in a 30 year conspiracy to make me think I can't bake ( I made rock cakes as a kid for a competition, she said she was ashamed to enter them but floods of tears later we did, & they won first prize). He used to tell me he didn't like cakes /pies & then if we were at Mums he would wait for me to say he didnt like them then ostentatiously eat hers & compliment her. They used to laugh! He eagerly eats my baking now (more of a sweet tooth with age) and I honestly think to him it was just a joke to wind me up. I'm glad I persevered as I like baking much more than cooking a meal.But I don't think you're over-reacting, it's really upsetting when people don't appreciate your food.

Take comfort from this. I like to make my own (healthy veg filled) soups, my adult children who love my spiced parsnip one, have all asked for the recipe and now make it for themselves however my husband prefers tinned soup.

My GM taught me how to bake when I was young. We used to put 2 eggs on one side of the scales and measure all the other ingredients on the other side (separately of course) We made brilliant Victoria sandwich cake.

There are now many recipes making what the Americans call a batter where you mix more or less everything together.

It's not difficult but if you go down the conventional room your eggs and butter must be at room temperature.

I often make a chocolate olive oil cake which substitutes ground almonds for flour. It's delicious. I often make it for lunches and serve with a berry compote and creme fraiche. It's a Nigella recipe.

I think it's a good idea to watch a video of someone making a cake. Because you might not know what is meant by a dropping consistency. If you make a proper egg custard you learn to take it off the heat as soon as the liquid stops moving when you stop stirring which can be difficult to recognise if you haven't seen it. Once you have it's obvious.

Good luck.

Just stop baking for him.

Part of the joy of baking is seeing people tucking in and enjoy your efforts so I understand your frustration. I’d try and keep it simple, basic sponge recipes, scones etc, if he still doesn’t enjoy them I’d give up and just get him a cake from the local bakers. Making bread at home can be very hit and miss which is why most people don’t bother. You could try a bread making machine but judging by the number I’ve seen for sale in charity shops they’re not foolproof either.

It's a shame that your efforts are not appreciated spabby and I fully understand why you're hurt by his response. Some of the posters on here have been a bit harsh. I'd suggest that you make things which you know you can tolerate in smaller batches for yourself. It takes time and effort to excel at baking, to find out which combinations work, so don't feel discouraged at early failures.

MawtheMerrier

Tell him you hear what he is saying and that you intend to take up crocheting instead

Great idea. I'll choose the dish on the right, in white.