Problems with DIL

My son is lonely and can't see his wife, so having the kids could be good for him. He also works 12 hour days so I would need to move in to look after them. Sadly, the military doesn't provide much help for foreign spouses and they have to apply for visas like every one else.

OP- Research narcissism. You are displaying symptoms of it.

I will bite
Where does your son stand here?

It's probably not a windup

MILs like this exist sadly

Goodness me this has to be a wind up no one could seriously expect their daughter-in-law to send her children to a country without her just because you’re missing them. This is selfish to the extreme, of course that’s not possible and i’m not even sure this is true because military usually look after the wives very well for her to have been left for a year doesn’t sound right at all

Iam64

Are you serious?

As John McEnroe used to say

"You cannot be serious!"

i am stunned at what i have just read, why should a mother send her children to another country just because you are missing out, why has her husband not asked the army for help, i am sure there must be something in place to bring a wife and there children to the usa. stop being selfish and let them sort it out, it really is none of your business.

I really feel for your DIL, it must be so hard having her visa issued and being apart from her husband

Please stop making that situation worse, for her, you can never replace your grandchildrens mother and asking her to stay behind alone is awful.

Leave your DIL & son to sort it out. She's not going to send her kids to another country without her.

Are you serious?