Retirees- what do you & dh/dh do with your day

We both retired along time ago. I go to sewing and upholstery classes on Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday. DH goes to current affairs class on Wednesday and plays bridge two to three times a week, sometimes at a club and sometimes online. We also garden and have an allotment. Also belong to two book groups and our local NWR. I hope you find that your new interests help.

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I agree that you should not be together 24/7. You each need some outside interests. Hobbies at home, learn a new language, join a choir, drama group, sports club. U3a has lots of groups. See what is on in your area. Consider voluntary work. Be a volunteer community driver, listen to children read in school, work for a charity…….
Maybe one of those ideas could be something you do together, but most will be separately.
Budget for household costs, and holidays/ days out, and have your own spending money.
Housework is the bottom of my list, well, not quite, but it just gets fitted in as and when.

You said it all - you’re a home bird and your husband has to get out every day. Your daily round of cleaning and cooking sounds suffocatingly boring and I’m not surprised he wants to escape outside of the house. My husband and I both like and enjoy our home and garden very much, share chores inside and out, and have completely different interests to absorb us. Neither of you seems to have an actual interest or, if you like, hobby. Something to occupy your minds. Going out for a coffee or going to a craft or exercise group for the sake of getting out isn’t an interest.

We are happy being together 24/7 no matter what we’re doing. We like each other’s company and prior to DHs health issues we enjoyed walking, reading and just being together.

We semi retired 2 years ago.
DH has now gone back to work! A different job to previous, though it has a few of the same elements.

I have carried on as before.
We got into a routine eventually of him doing a few jobs around the house. It never all sat very well with him.

Not sure how helpful other people’s way of doing things will be, as our personalities, relationships and issues will be different.

I think you need to work out what you want, from retirement and from your relationship, ask your husband to do the same, and then sit down together for some honest conversations about how (or whether) you can find common ground.

But, fwiw, I would never be asking my husband for money for things for the house as if it was only my responsibility; we have a joint account, into which we each pay a monthly sum proportionate to our income, for all household expenses.