My husband has always been quite difficult but as he’s got older he’s become much worse.
Socially he’s a nightmare and his behaviour has actually made me avoid company with him because he always manages to say embarrassing things, thoughtless things and people are clearly upset by him but when I try to talk to him about it he becomes aggressive and makes out it’s my problem, so I now avoid going out.
It’s become more of a problem since our children have become older and have their own partners, they want to introduce their partners to us but have all said they fear what nonsense their dad is going to come out with so avoid bringing them home. When they do he always manages to make difficult situations by the silly things he says and does. For example my eldest daughter has recently started a new relationship and was quickly invited to meet his parents and the wider family, I’m thrilled for her that it’s all going so well but she’s avoiding bringing him home and said this last weekend, in tears I might add, that she feels anxiety at bringing her boyfriend home because of her father. In the past he’s sworn very coarsely, made misogynistic and homophobic comments or made comments about people’s weight or his favourite is just to talk about himself, usually making up stories to make himself look important and never bothers to actually engage with the visitors at all. He pretends he has knowledge of all sorts of things football rugby sports but makes it all up and looks and sounds really foolish in front of people. I’m left to feel sad and depressed because I always feel like it reflects upon me.
I’ve tried so hard to discreetly talk to him about things he does but he gaslights me about things and always manages to make it appear like it’s my problem. In the meantime I’m missing out so much on things with my family and socially. I’m so tired of him.
Any advice of how I might go forward or anyone with similar experiences?
