30 year old man in a big age gap relationship

NotSpaghetti

Thank you for coming back MALayhee700 - I expect most of us are similar in age to your parents.

My mother is 49 and my dad is 51

I just wanted to thank everyone for the replies, I probably should have typed more in my post. I'm asking this question on a specific site because I have been harassed on Reddit multiple times, just deleted my account and I'm not engaging there anymore.

I didn't want to sound younger than 30 either, I should have elaborated more on my current relationship other than dating and sex. I'm still in the process of getting to know my girlfriend and people are right, the relationship might not work out, but I'm willing to give it a chance and see where it goes.

I personally want kids myself, but if adoption is on the table, I won't write that off entirely.

I apologize for coming across as immature, I didn't want to type a long opening statement, I tried summarizing things as quickly as possible.

Fleurpepper

Why are you all assuming Malayhee is male?

I have a friend who has just married a man 35 years younger than him- they are both male.

Because the title refers to a 30 year old man?
#whatitsaysonthetin

FannyCornforth

crazyH

Schools out for Summer !

As an aside, I never assume that wind up merchants are kids.
They have a much wider scope for internet based tomfoolery, and hopefully more imagination.

I usually assume that they are male and 40 plus

Oh but FannyC remember the happy days of onesies, ShoeZone and plimsolls! 😂😂

Thank you for coming back MALayhee700 - I expect most of us are similar in age to your parents.

Have you got any mates or siblings you can talk things over with ?
You ve been given good advice on here but much better to chew it over with people nearer your own age group

Oldnproud

I'm curious, OP - what made you think of asking this question on Gransnet?

I was looking for another forum, I don't like Reddit or Quora

Yes, I think it’s a wind up too.

crazyH

Schools out for Summer !

As an aside, I never assume that wind up merchants are kids.
They have a much wider scope for internet based tomfoolery, and hopefully more imagination.

I usually assume that they are male and 40 plus

Germanshepherdsmum

‘The possibility of no biological kids’ suggests to me that he is male.

Yup

FP I think that most people are ‘assuming’ that he’s a wind up merchant

Schools out for Summer !

‘The possibility of no biological kids’ suggests to me that he is male.

Why are you all assuming Malayhee is male?

I have a friend who has just married a man 35 years younger than him- they are both male.

Nice one Meryl

I assumed that the fellow in question wanted to seek advice from wise, older women.

Perhaps I’m naive!

I did wonder if it was a wind up and I did wonder why a 30 year old man would chose a granny site to ask the question ??? perhaps he thought we d all forgotten what sex is … how wrong can a ‘young un’ be

Enjoy your life and talk to your mates about it, not grannies.

Schools have broken up in many parts of the country…

FannyCornforth

Dotty123

Is this a genuine post? Assumed it was a wind-up…

Why?
It’s not exactly implausible.

The question in itself is perfectly plausible, but personally I find the fact that it is being asked on Gransnet of all places rather suspicious strange.

Dotty123

Is this a genuine post? Assumed it was a wind-up…

My friend met a man who was 18 yrs younger than her ( she was 54 at the time )
She was very reluctant to go with it, I persuaded her to go for it.
Still together 20 yrs later.

The baby thing really is the issue here isn’t it.
I know that it’s early days, but you need to find out if you both want the same things from the relationship.

I have a huge gap with my DH. He had had the snip; I was ambivalent about having children, I don’t actually think that it would have been right for me. So we were always on the same page.

A close relative married a few years ago.
He definitely did not want children, and was very clear about it.
She definitely did want children, and foolishly thought that she could ‘win him round to it’.
The marriage was inevitably a disaster

Dotty123

Is this a genuine post? Assumed it was a wind-up…

Why?
It’s not exactly implausible.

Is this a genuine post? Assumed it was a wind-up…

I'm curious, OP - what made you think of asking this question on Gransnet?

NotSpaghetti - hear, hear.

You sound very “young”. OP for a man of 30.
I wonder if you are attracted to older women because you feel insecure?
As others have said, you may be overthinking this- if as you say you are focusing on dates and having sex it hardly sounds like a relationship for life.
Introducing her to your family may indeed be a game changer as she may well be made aware of how young you are - not the other way round
Just relax and enjoy the relationship.