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Leaving marriage after 50

(34 Posts)
Vito Sat 18-Nov-23 14:29:41

As Smiless said what courage you are showing. I can only admire you for taking the steps to leave. Take care, thinking of you flowers

Grandmabatty Sat 18-Nov-23 14:24:23

I wouldn't call it sad. I would applaud you for making a tough decision after years of coercive control. You are strong and brave and have decided no more. Get legal advice and women's aid is there to support you. I wish you a happier 2024

Germanshepherdsmum Sat 18-Nov-23 14:20:50

Exactly what I was thinking. I would also contact the Citizens Advice Bureau.

Good luck.

Smileless2012 Sat 18-Nov-23 14:16:20

You're doing the right thing and showing great courage.

Having been in a coercively controlled marriage, your financial position may not be what you've been led to believe. Your husband may well be keeping important information from you so hopefully the refuge will be able to help you access legal advice.

Good luck flowers.

glammanana Sat 18-Nov-23 14:14:56

You are so brave to do this there is only so much a person can out up with and you have found that point in your life well done you.
The people at the refuge will steer you in the right way to claim everything you can access,make sure you get as much paperwork as necessary and keep your address confidential from your soon to be ex-partner enjoy your life without being controlled you are so strong and deserve to have peace in your life.

crazyH Sat 18-Nov-23 14:14:13

So, so , sorry . Life is such a bxxxxr 😡- I hope you will get the help you need . flowers

Thisismyname1953 Sat 18-Nov-23 14:07:54

I’m so sorry you are in this position. It may seem difficult to leave but I’m sure that in time you will be much happier. I’m glad you are in contact with women’s aid and that you have their support. Best wishes for the future.

Soozikinzi Sat 18-Nov-23 14:05:31

Sad yes but you're doing the right thing . Im sure the refuge will help you access the correct benefits etc . Keep strong .

Jenho Sat 18-Nov-23 13:56:28

I am in the process of trying to leave a marriage of 50 years and it is truly terrifying. I have no assets, we have rented for the last few years and our finances are such that I only have the state pension to rely on. I am the victim of coercive control and am in touch with women’s aid in order to go into a refuge as I see this as my only option as I don’t have funds to do anything else. I do not have any family or friends to help. How sad is that?