Deleted my dating profile

"infest" 😆 love it!

My son father inlaw met his partner on match they were only together couple of months before lockdown and they did that together and still going strong he said best thing he ever did lol me myself you name the site I’ve tried it most only wanna talk about the ex 🤣 and I’m past being his mum don’t get me wrong I’ve dated a few but most only wanna sit on sofa like an old married couple and I’ve done that when I was married but I’ve given up on men Ive got everything I need with family and friends if I get that despite I can buy a rabbit 🤣🤣

Nearly 20 years divorced and still love my single life. I feel more of a person now than I did when married

I met my present husband via a newspaper ad over 20 years ago. We have been happily married for 18 years now. I was alone for 10 years before that. There was just something about his ad which caught my attention.

Alternatively, if you are lucky enough to find someone some years younger, happen to click and don't mind raised eyebrows or people thinking you are a sugar mummy, they might take care of you. Or not need caring for, anyway.

I can't help but think if you are looking for a man (or woman) to make your life happier you need to have a rethink about how you are living your own life right now ... I've been single for almost 12 years, hasn't stopped me travelling (actually, done more travelling in the last 12 years than the previous 20 years with "him"). It'd be nice to have a date night now and again, and I'd really love to walk into a room and have a "significant other"'s eyes light up when they see me, but - my opinion - if you need a man to make you happy then you are doing something wrong.

I've seen so many friends settle for Mr OK. Someone who is a bore, who talks over them, who grumps at home if they go out but won't go out with them, overbearing etc ... makes zero effort at life. I'd rather carry on solo than sorry.

I don't use the word "alone" - that gives an impression that I'm lonely. I'd rather be alone and happy than as a couple and miserable.

My DH died 16 years ago after 35 years of marriage. I was only 54 and I’m now 70 . It would have been our golden wedding anniversary last September and I’m still on my own but prefer it that way . I’m not ready to do someone else’s laundry and never will be .

My experience of Internet dating is an absolute disaster .

I thought that I'd meet someone wonderful .
How stupid of me !

They were liars - lying about their age /financial situation /abilities , foul mouthed , scruffy , unwashed , drunk , mean with money , calculating , scheming , angry and obsessed with sex .

All of them wanted a doormat .
And here's a woman who isn't going to allow them to wipe their feet on her !

When I first separated from my ex I tried online dating but it seemed most men were just after one thing. I thought I couldn't cope on my own but soon realised I could. I hoped I might meet someone special but after being alone for the same length of time I was married I know which is easier! I have plenty friends and a busy life as well as AC and GC so I don't need anyone. If I did meet someone, who knows, but I'm not expecting it or looking for it any more.

Esmay

My experience of Internet dating is an absolute disaster .

I thought that I'd meet someone wonderful .
How stupid of me !

They were liars - lying about their age /financial situation /abilities , foul mouthed , scruffy , unwashed , drunk , mean with money , calculating , scheming , angry and obsessed with sex .

All of them wanted a doormat .
And here's a woman who isn't going to allow them to wipe their feet on her !

Wonderful and wise words.
I have thought about it, but no, can’t be bothered anymore.
Miss my DH more than I can say, but start again, never

My Mum who was widowed in her forties (and left with four youngish children to bring up) used to say " I'd never marry again, as men of my generation want a housekeeper! I don't want to be washing some old man's pants!"

My (now ex) MIL had a similar experience with a liar, someone who said they were a successful businessman with co-ownership of a company. She was utterly smitten, thought in her 50's she'd found a new love. Discovered he was a coach driver for the company, told her so many lies and it brought her to her knees. Absolutely shook her.

I've heard some of the lies my ex has told and honestly I don't know how you'd trust a guy again ..

Just spent 25 years nursing ….fussing over….picking up after ….worrying over ….being abused by , my stroke affected/ dementing /then Alzheimers husband . After my third stroke he’s finially in full time care ! Oh yes definately want all that over again ….why didn’t i think of it myself!

Been on my own now, for over 30 years, go on the occasional date but to be honest I really can’t be bothered.😁
Not being very good at DIY the only thing I need a man for is to put a shelf up. 😏
Married twice, there won’t be a third time 😉
Both very short-lived marriages first one 10 months and I left second 5 years and I left. I really don’t do well in captivity..🙃

You have done what you felt like doing. It's not irreversible, and others will do different things.

None of this needs validation from your peers.

Yes gigi1958 I will never have to explain where I'm going, who I'm meeting, when I'll be back and how much I've spent...

That sounds a bit sad lizzypopbottle I've never had to explain anything to my husband. I tell him where I am going and who with because he is interested and its simple courtesy.

After my divorce I had a few relationships before I realised that there were reasons why they were other women’s rejects. I gave up and have enjoyed my very full life where I please myself ever since

sodapop my late husband was very needy... he preferred I didn't go out at all without him. I felt confined. I won't put myself in that position again.

A friend of mine says at this age all they want is “nurse or purse”! No thanks - my dog is enough for me!!

After coming to terms with the shock of being widowed 3 years ago in January I have found contentment in my life. I have a wide circle of friends, great family and my marvellous supportive sister. I go to a social group nearly every day, I've had 2 short holidays this year, am moving into a new home on Monday
i can still drive and am financially stable. I would never give all that up for another man. Yes I'm living alone but am never lonely. I'm not remotely interested in find one either.

You have done very well travelsofar I remember when your husband died I would never have believed it to be 3 years ago

I’m a widow of 10 years I tried a dating site during the pandemic which in retrospect was pretty pointless, so didn’t bother again until last autumn when I saw that match had an offer of a month’s membership for £4.99 I gave it a try. I had 2 dates one looked older than his photo and the other was so needy, after having 3 disappointing phone calls with other men I gave up.
It was a nightmare try to cancel my subscription before it went up to the premium price it so infuriated me that I will never go back to that awful, complicated, American site again.
Does anyone know of a purely British site? I did try one for the widowed which was depressing. Unfortunately I'm not sure what I want, companionship, love with all that entails or a male friend with benefits…

Two men we know, 40+ and 60+, have found happy new relationships with women through eHarmony.

After my mother was widowed at 59 (and I was a mere 20 year old) I used to try to encourage her to find someone else. I was concerned about her being alone and she was a very attractive woman.

Her response. "I don't want to look after some bloody old man I barely know".

Now I'm a widow in my mid sixties I know exactly what she meant. Like her I will definitely pass on that one thank you very much.