Relationship with daughter in law

I’d agree it’s likely just a combination of who she is combined with a busy stage of her life. I wouldn’t read into it or bother myself about it. Not everyone is super invested, or invested at all really, in everybody else. I’d be grateful for the frequent contact and what a wonderful wife and mother she is and carry on

I don’t think this is an age thing… My MIL never asks about me…

Some people are just like that. My DIL never asks me anything. I don’t think it’s just youngsters though. I have an elderly relative who is exactly the same-she never asks me anything about myself nor about my family. I always initiate contact but it’s a struggle to keep the conversation going. When I moved house she apologised for not sending me a Christmas card as she said she didn’t know my address - but, even then, she didn’t ask me what it was! I must admit I am not particularly interested in other people either and have to try to remember to ask the right questions. Some people are self-absorbed and just not curious about others.

Does she perhaps think it's your son's job to ask about his parents ?

I don't think there's much you can do about it Sanje. It's probably just the way she is. Young people these days are often rather self absorbed. I suppose she at least stays in touch regularly and you don't find her unpleasant. You could make a point of talking about your life before she gets a word in edgeways but this would be stilted and anyway, is it really worth the psychological battle? You're unlikely to galvanise her interest if none exists. Don't you ever talk to your son during these sessions?

Can I ask , is it mainly you that contacts them or do they call you , I'm just wondering if she's busy when you call. Do you speak to them together or your son first and then you're dil, only my when my inlaws call , they mainly speak to my hubbie, mil only askes to speak to me if its to ask about a upcoming birthday or event in the family

Keeping in touch regularly she may not have much news to tell you I ve got one child who is a very yes/ no person with no padding not everyone is a conversationalist
I d carry on enjoy a one sided chat but be very careful regular isn’t a step too far
Where’s your son in all these conversations ?