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Blatant showing off starting to get really tiresome/distasteful

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MealDealDreamz Sun 16-Jun-24 15:25:36

My relative has retired and has spent the last six months travelling regularly abroad and has had about 6 really quite extravagant and luxurious trips. They regularly post on social media about their travels but the luxury is always so overstated it is starting to grate and seem quite distasteful. Pictures of huge plates of seafood and champagne, 'luxury' accommodation with 'private' saunas and 'exclusive' concerts and 'feeling spoilt/blessed'. It all seems a bit in your face and distasteful, given the fact that she knows most of her family are not very well off and her own kids are struggling to manage financially. I'm happy for people to have treats and enjoy holidays but the constant bombardment and in your face images and videos is so excessive. Do they have no idea how they come across?

Rockyroad Sun 16-Jun-24 15:32:27

Why does it bother you? Just ignore it.
It’s up to them how they spend their money.

JaneJudge Sun 16-Jun-24 15:32:30

I'd just mute her/unfollow if it is upsetting you

Aveline Sun 16-Jun-24 15:34:12

It's just her life she's posting about. If you don't want to know about it then just don't read it.

crazyH Sun 16-Jun-24 15:36:34

There are some show-offs in this world, fortunately , none (that annoy me) among my family/friends. However, one of my friends has a pretty granddaughter, who ‘people stare at’, whenever she goes out with her.
I think your relative is very ‘shallow’ - she should be helping her children out, if they are struggling. My advice is to just ignore those posts and don’t ‘like’ them or make any comment .

AGAA4 Sun 16-Jun-24 15:36:36

This is why I soon stopped using Facebook as I found some of the bragging annoying. I think people who boast about what they have and the exciting things they do are very shallow.
I question how happy people like this really are. I live my life, enjoy lots of things but don't need others to know what I am doing.

Allsorts Sun 16-Jun-24 15:37:26

I would just let it go over my head. No real need to comment if look for that matter, this is the only social media I do, but wouldn't show my face as I’m very private. A lot show every part of their day.

Aveline Sun 16-Jun-24 15:44:09

I really don't see other people's posts as bragging. Should we all pretend to lead uneventful lives just so that others feel OK? Chips on shoulders on display here?

Bumface Sun 16-Jun-24 15:49:09

My landlord used to be like that. Back in the early 1970s, we were four student nurses struggling to get by financially and the landlord used to pop in to pick up his mail (just one or two plain brown envelopes that couldn't be delivered to his home for some reason hmm). Often he would tell us things like how he had treated his wifey and two daughters to a slap up meal, what they ate and how much it had cost. Then he would say "Only the best for my girlies". He also used to ask us to guess how much he'd paid for his new watch or hand made shoes or whatever.
No doubt he would have loved social medea.

Georgesgran Sun 16-Jun-24 15:54:54

If your relative had always been boastful - then it is what it is and just ignore it.

However, presumably they’ve saved hard for this retirement and these trips and want to show how they’re enjoying them?

As for the kids struggling, it may be that once this travelling bug has settled down, the kids might benefit. You don’t really know all the circumstances.

AreWeThereYet Sun 16-Jun-24 16:00:30

Aveline

I really don't see other people's posts as bragging. Should we all pretend to lead uneventful lives just so that others feel OK? Chips on shoulders on display here?

Agree.

Jaxjacky Sun 16-Jun-24 16:15:32

Just block them on your social media.

Ladyleftfieldlover Sun 16-Jun-24 16:19:55

You don’t have to read them!

pascal30 Sun 16-Jun-24 16:22:26

Jaxjacky

Just block them on your social media.

Quite..

petra Sun 16-Jun-24 16:37:01

People amaze you, don’t they? Why would anyone keep doing something that really annoys or upsets them and then broadcast that fact on a public forum 🤦🏼‍♀️

Jewelle Sun 16-Jun-24 16:49:49

There is always another side to this type of bragging. Once a friend of mine went on holiday with all her family, there were pics galore on FB, and insta with the hashtags blessed, family, wonderful holiday etc.

When she came back I said looks like you had a wonderful holiday and she said no, it was awful, we kept having arguments the kids drove us mad and the place wasn’t that nice.

Basically, she lied about everything! 🤷‍♀️

ginny Sun 16-Jun-24 16:50:37

Just ignore them.

shysal Sun 16-Jun-24 16:55:31

I think social media bragging has replaced those awful 'round Robin' Christmas letters we used to get in cards from some! smile

Germanshepherdsmum Sun 16-Jun-24 17:03:58

Wherever you are seeing all this bragging, just stop looking.

BlueBelle Sun 16-Jun-24 17:11:48

Luckily I don’t notice this on FB my friends don’t really brag they might show pictures when they re on holiday , but so do I
Flip past them if they annoy or upset you

Norah Sun 16-Jun-24 17:11:50

Perhaps they scrimped and saved, are enjoying themselves.

Really, delete them, or don't read if they so upset you!

Smileless2012 Sun 16-Jun-24 17:14:55

Don't read but if you must, don't comment.

Germanshepherdsmum Sun 16-Jun-24 17:15:55

I’m glad I’m not on FB!

Smileless2012 Sun 16-Jun-24 17:21:43

Me too, Mr. S. is but I can't think of anything I'd rather do less GSM.

Mollygo Sun 16-Jun-24 17:24:22

Don’t read it. Or if it really bothers you, ask them to put you on their “friends except” list. That way they can enjoy themselves without you even knowing about it.