I’ve been rejected by my sisters

Do as your therapist says.

Depends how important your sisters are to you!

It depends how much you want them in your life.

If it only does you harm, I'd go with your therapist.

I almost can understand the sister that I said something to but what about the other sister?

To put this into context the lie was about who was invited to my sisters grandson event. I was told by my nephew that no cousins were invited. I was invited with a plus one but neither of my adult kids or son in law were invited (which is why I asked my nephew but he told me they kept it small no cousins). Feeling awkward taking my adult son so as not to hurt any other cousins feelings I asked my sister about it and she said oh no my other sisters son, daughter in law and their 2 kids are invited. I was taken aback but brought my son with me. But at the party I saw my sisters other kids (she had her son and grandkids there) and all my kids were excluded really?? I was shocked when I saw all of them and my sister was right in front of me and I said hi. Guess only certain cousins made the cut. She gave me a dagger look. I approached her later in the evening and said let’s do this over. Hi how are you? She said I love you but hasn’t talked to me since including today my birthday.

I had to sit there all night watching my sister (just a guest) with all her children and grandkids and I was furious. So hurt! My kids were so close to my nephew and his family. Why wasn’t I told the truth so I didn’t have to walk into that? I feel like I was set up.

Oh what a tangled web we weave...

You stated that you don't want to contact them until you are given an apology. That sounds like you have already made up your mind: If you don't receive an apology, you won't contact them. (Don't sit and wait for it and get yourself tied up in knots about it because neither of them will be sending you one.) Just get on with moving on.

Sometimes spats like this are caused by misunderstandings on both sides but we are too angry or hurt to discuss it in a healing manner.

Sometimes holding a grudge only hurts the one holding it.

Forgiving someone who you feel has wronged you might feel impossible but it's not. Forgiving is part of showing love and showing love sometimes will cause an apology, only many years later.

Do whatever makes you feel the best in your heart. No one "owes" you anything. Everyone grows at their own pace.

I don't think it's worth losing contact with your sisters over.
It was her/their family occasion. The lie was a white one - trying not to offend people. Guest lists can be a nightmare. Often the cousins have the final say.

Happy birthday 🎂

Today was the perfect opportunity for at least my one sister who wasn’t involved to send me a happy bday text. Really? Maybe she feels guilty. I did say something to her at the party as well. Told her I was hurt none of my kids were invited.

Why didn’t they tell me the truth? What did they think was going to happen when I saw all the other cousins there?

After reading your follow up post just now (I crossposted), I can't explain why that happened but I would like to still wish you a Happy Birthday from afar.

Think I’ll stand down for a while and take my therapists advice. This is just cruel.

Thank you.

I don’t imagine it would be your sisters who decided the guest list so why argue with them Speak to your nephew if you must but in my experience no matter how close people were as children doesn’t,t mean they are as adults.They were entitled to invite who they wanted and sad to say it wasn,t your kids,you need to get over this and apologise to your sisters for potentially ruining the event

Sometimes I arrange Cousins Parties. Maybe in the future you could arrange a get-together for the cousins. Or your kids can always invite the nephew over, any time. It doesn't have to be a birthday event.

Our young GC sing a song (no idea where they learnt it) "Let it go" runs on and on, and ends "The cold never bothered me anyway" -- perhaps if you care to your sisters, just pray and let it go, no real reason to be bothered.

That is so true paddyann54. Why would a guest decide upon the guest list? Maybe a "thank you for the invite" is the proper etiquette.

Happy Birthday!

My older sister who was a guest like me and magically had all her kids and grandkids there and who I told I was upset at my kids being excluded has no right to treat me like crap

^ I don’t want to contact them since I’m owed an apology first and foremost.^

Personally I think life is far too short for this sort of thing.

Can you be the bigger person and start the conversation first?

And yes, Happy Birthday!

As for the other sister (mother of my nephew) she should have told me in advance of the event that other cousins were coming so I didn’t have to walk into that horrible situation

She never mentioned them even though my niece tells me she knew.

Wow if this is all it takes to be treated like crap by my sisters I’m not sure it’s worth my effort.