Online dating worry

It was just a couple of weeks ago that I was saying to my grandchildren, if you haven’t seen someone in real life who wants to chat with you - don’t! They could be any crook, thief or oddball with bad intentions towards you however nice they sound. It seems all generations need to remind themselves of this sad fact of internet life.

On a light note , I heard the other day of someone who got a similar romantic approach online, so she replied to the effect “ let’s cut the c*#p, - just tell me how much you need and your bank details” and he did!!!! Dont know how true it is, but I would love to be that quick witted!

I would block him immediately.

Beau - Just so glad you extricated yourself before it cost you money. I do hope you hadn't made too much of an emotional investment.

On a different tack, please could someone tell me why from time to time I get sent emails purporting to be from women around the same age as my granddaughters, who are desperate to send me photos of themselves with a view to a relationship? Do they have a deficiency of grandparents?

I would block him, change your email address, and breathe a big sigh of relief. This screams scam to me. Sorry.

Yes he’s a scammer. Happened to me. False photos stolen of some poor US army guy. Likely to be a Nigerian scammer who’s drawing you in by giving you what you want to hear before eventually asking you for money so he can come and see you. Mine even spoke to me on the phone. Can’t believe I was taken in too.

Read the thread Welshgirl
I give up 🤷🏼‍♂️🤷🏼‍♂️🤷🏼‍♂️

BLOCK HIM IMMEDIATELY, I smell a scammer a mile off!!!

Beau1958

Out of the blue I received a message in my inbox on Tik-tok from a handsome looking serviceman in the US army he’s stationed in Poland. We started chatting sharing our brief life history, likes, dislikes etc. he messages me most days and has sent over two photos of himself and has asked me to leave tik tok to a different platform Google chat. I am quite wary of scammers and up to now no real red flags apart from ignoring some of my questions. His name badge and online name match he is around my age 60 possibly a few young’s younger. He is getting quite deep and meaningful in his messages about what he wants in a relationship and he’s looking for real meaningful love. He sounds like my ideal man and I was so excited about receiving his messages but a friend pointed out it could be a scammer. Has anyone had this experience before. What would you do ? I don’t want to put him off by asking him straight out?

Run a mile.... or more - this is a scam -

www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cq82z8ywdxeo

I'm always getting 'friend' requests looking for 'romance' on Instagram - and yes usually 'American men' ......I immediately delete! This was also discussed on Womans Hour on R4 in the last week. It's horrifying what this woman went through, I find it difficult to understand that anyone would let things get this far..... :-(

I really wish people read the thread
All the latest advise being given is not needed

BEAU HAS REPORTED HIM HES BEEN CHECKED OUT YES HES A SCAMMER AND HES BEEN REMOVED

yes I m shouting because people are still giving reams of advice and some quite harsh posts to boot

It’s been done it’s finished it’s over

A 60 year old serviceman and he’s still working …..

Run!

No no no!! Get out of there quick. This is the profile and behaviour of a typical scammer. Before long he will have either had an accident and need money for hospital costs or else someone will have robbed him and he’s now penniless. Either way he will say he needs your financial help . There are loads of these types on dating sites.

First of all GET OFF of TikTock and do NOT get on GOOGLE CHAT!

The interest he’s showing is not sincere and don’t you fall for it. On any dating sight.

Let any new relationship happen organically in your own backyard or through mutual friends, where you can see each other, engage in conversation, etc. Don’t hang on to WORDS, EMOTIONS. They are not real. You are in charge and driving all new relationships. Be careful.

Beau1958 Well done for reporting him and blocking him!

i can not believe anyone would bite to this 35years down the line

emilie

Have you taken leave of your senses?

Read the thread.
Beau has blocked and reported him.

MissAdventure

Honestly?

It's a scam.

He is following the textbook script for scammers.

If you know how to, use Google to search his photo, and you will find it is of someone who's online photo has been used.

I was going to suggest the latter… To check a photo online, you can use a reverse image search tool. Here’s how to do it:

### 1. *Google Reverse Image Search*
- *On a Computer:*
1. Open your web browser and go to [Google Images](https://images.google.com/).
2. Click the camera icon in the search bar.
3. You can either paste the URL of the image or upload an image from your device.
4. Google will then search for visually similar images across the web.

- *On a Mobile Device:*
1. Open your browser and go to [Google Images](https://images.google.com/).
2. Tap on the camera icon.
3. Upload the photo or paste the image URL.
4. Google will show results similar to the image.

### 2. TinEye
- Go to [TinEye](https://tineye.com/).
- Upload the image or paste the image URL.
- TinEye will search for where the image appears online.

### 3. *Yandex Images*
- Visit [Yandex Images](https://yandex.com/images/).
- Upload the photo or paste the image URL.
- Yandex will find similar images and where they appear online.

### 4. *Social Media Platforms*
- Some social media platforms like Facebook and Instagram have built-in tools to search for images or check their authenticity, though they are usually limited in scope compared to dedicated tools like Google Images or TinEye.

Using these tools, you can verify the origin of a photo, find higher-resolution versions, or see where else the image has been used online.

It screams SCAM! Beware!

Have you taken leave of your senses?

At the first mention of money you know it’s a scam, bin him.

ExaltedWombat

@Beau1958 Are you for real? You KNOW this is a scam. Play him along if you like, enjoy the game. I kept someone from 'Microsoft security' chatting for nearly 10 minutes the other day - while they're trying to scan you they aren't scamming anyone else!

Beau has blocked and reported him.

Been there. Mine was based with the UN in Nigeria. Odds are he's a scammer. Practise flirting with him but don't believe a word he says. Don't leave the 'safe' site to talk elsewhere. That's part of the scam because there will be no algorithm to pick up dodgy conversation so you won't be warned. The money request will come eventually. Or just block him.

@Beau1958 Are you for real? You KNOW this is a scam. Play him along if you like, enjoy the game. I kept someone from 'Microsoft security' chatting for nearly 10 minutes the other day - while they're trying to scan you they aren't scamming anyone else!

Definitely scam.

Run as fast as you can. Haven't you heard the stories on Radio 4 about these men. They can tell you anything they want you to believe. It would pay you to listen to a Programme on Radio 4 this last week. Block him at once.