Online dating worry

Yes, I'm thankful that many have warned you off. But I'm also thankful that, much as you were enjoying the communications between you and 'him', you had the sense to seek some advice before it was too late.

As someone said - watch the BBC programmes which reveal the way scammers work - it will hurt, I suspect, as much of what they tell you will already be familiar to you. But I'm SURE you action has saved you from losing a LOT of money!!

Ask him to help YOU out with a considerable loan and see if he replies. It's a scam.

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What everyone else has said. I get them from time to time, always FB and my pic is of OH and me too.
Frankly, I wonder who would be bothered with contacting an old boot like me.
Delete, block and move on. Good luck too.

It's a scam ! block and report

60 ish and still a serving soldier? This sounds like a classic dating scam. If you can try to search internet images for his photos. When the BBC a we’re researching scams they found that the scammers had ‘stolen’ photos and these were now on dating sites with multiple identities.
He might be genuine, but the rule is NEVER, NEVER send money, gift cards or anything else to this person.
There are genuine nice guys out there. My son has married a girl he met on line and a friend has been nursed beck to health by an internet boyfriend she had only just met in person.

It's a scam, block and report

Would be nice if genuine BUT IT'S NOT!!! Delete and don't reply to any similar messages. Report as spam/phishing.

Sounds pretty unkind to me.

Oh my love,its a scam,don't fall for it,do as others have said,block him,

Such a textbook scam. Thank goodness you were suspicious enough to post on here Beau. I’ve watched too many YouTube videos about romance and other scammers to get taken in I hope.

I have had similar, mostly in the army & widowed. I know it's nice to have the attention from such handsome men.
But who is really behind the keyboard, anyone can send false pics. It's not as if he's local or even from this country to be able to meet up somewhere safe.

Please BLOCK!

As everyone else is saying I am almost sure this is a scam. If he's too good to be true....he probably isn't real. I have an Instagram account where I post various textile projects ( with absolutely no personal stuff at all, just the artwork) and it is AMAZING how many US servicemen are into machine embroidery! 🤣 Seriously, run for the hills and block him.

Typical scam!!! I get so many with very similar profiles wanting to be friends on fb mainly. Don’t want to sound unkind but I often wonder who would be gullible enough to fall for their story, wonder no more, now I know!!! Please sever all ties immediately, before the sob stories start!

I get these all the time on FB, I just block them, when you look at their profiles it’s clear they ve just stolen someone’s photo and are posing as them, designed to lure what they think are vulnerable older ladies. Beware, don’t interact, just block xx

Indigo8 I feel the same way about anyone who has been conned by unscrupulous scumbags as being able to trust others should be part of living in a civilised society.

The problem is we are now connected to the rest of the world via the internet, and many societies are not civilised. We not only have our own scammers and sharks to contend with but criminals from every country in the world.

We can only hope that youngsters are more savvy than older folk because this is a battle they will have to fight throughout their lives. The rule is to ignore ANYONE you don't know who contacts you out of the blue.

I had a similar experiance googled the name given and found it was a scam the real american general was married and had family. Block them!!

I had a friend request from a 'retired, widowed dentist' living in America, accompanied by a photo that looked remarkably like a young version of a Hollywood film star whose name I couldn't recall. Blocked at once - why would he suddenly contact me?

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Don't feel stupid Beau! These scammers are very skilled. My clever son fell for a banking scam and was defrauded. Forgive yourself!

Have a good day.

My DH is very well educated and writes books. A few months ago he fell for a scam and we lost thousands. He felt so ashamed and foolish that he contemplated suicide. I felt very angry with the people who did this but I felt nothing but sympathy for my DH. I feel the same way about anyone who has been conned by unscrupulous scumbags as being able to trust others should be part of living in a civilised society.

These "out of the blue" requests occur regularly on my facebook account, usually american service men posted in Europe. Delete him and then block him, don't get drawn in any further.

Amazing that very intelligent people, men and women, in really responsible occupations get caught out by these SCAMMERS. Having watched a T.V. prograame showing examples of how these scams progress, what I can never understand is - the person carrying out the scam always seem to find it difficult to pay for the fare to visit their so-called love BUT, none of those being scammed say - 'In that case I will come and visit you' - instead they just keep shelling out money - sometimes for years!!
Advice to lady posting - RUN A MILE!!

I had the same via Facebook a widower in the services. He wrote that his son thought I looked like his mother - my facebook profile picture is of one of my cats! I wrote back and said your dead wife was a cat! I did get a reply still on the lines of his original message. He was blocked.

If he’s really a handsome 60 year old US serviceman stationed in Poland, I can tell you right now from what I know about Polish women, who are nothing if not resourceful (not to mention glamorous) he doesn’t need to be contacting random ladies in the UK for dates!
Scam scam scam. Delete your tiktok account and change all your passwords.

Definitely a scam. My sisters friend had a similar experience, out of the blue an older soldier stationed in Africa began corresponding with her. She fell for him and after a couple of months he asked her for money for an emergency (to be sent to a PO Box in Nigeria). It was only down to the Post Office who, when she went to send the money, refused to send it saying that it was a scam. She took some convincing though!

The main warning is that you ‘received a message out of the blue’!!!!
How on earth did that happen?
Be VERY wary.

You could always string him along for entertainment purposes and see how quickly he asks you for money… 🤣

But whatever you decide, DO NOT SEND HIM ANY MONEY!!!