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Beau1958 Mon 19-Aug-24 12:14:04

Out of the blue I received a message in my inbox on Tik-tok from a handsome looking serviceman in the US army he’s stationed in Poland. We started chatting sharing our brief life history, likes, dislikes etc. he messages me most days and has sent over two photos of himself and has asked me to leave tik tok to a different platform Google chat. I am quite wary of scammers and up to now no real red flags apart from ignoring some of my questions. His name badge and online name match he is around my age 60 possibly a few young’s younger. He is getting quite deep and meaningful in his messages about what he wants in a relationship and he’s looking for real meaningful love. He sounds like my ideal man and I was so excited about receiving his messages but a friend pointed out it could be a scammer. Has anyone had this experience before. What would you do ? I don’t want to put him off by asking him straight out?

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Granmalarkey Thu 28-Nov-24 22:12:03

Wish people would 📖 🤬 🧵 as they say on Mumsnet!

SkibidiGran Wed 27-Nov-24 13:51:39

I'm sorry to tell you but you're being scammed, no man you want a relationship with would approach you on tiktok of all places! xxconfused

JTH65 Tue 03-Sept-24 21:47:38

Sorry. I’ve just seen you have blocked him. Well done and good luck with your future xxx

JTH65 Tue 03-Sept-24 21:26:56

STOP MESSAGING IMMEDIATELY! I am so sorry, you must be devastated to read this but please DO NOT message this person any more. IT IS A SCAM. Myself and a friend have had very similar messaging from someone. I wasn’t interested as I am married and my friend sent for the ride to see what happens but did not switch conversation to another way. US service,based overseas, asked to switch to WhatsApp for messaging. Please oh please NEVER NEVER respond to anyone. You sound like you need some love and company, keep to near your home and never never give personal details away. Good luck my lovely. Please let us know how you get on. Xxx

Cambsnan Tue 27-Aug-24 07:56:20

Best way to check a romance scam is to ask for a face time chat.

Bibblebibbleblop Mon 26-Aug-24 22:12:53

Sorry couldn’t be bothered to read the responses and just saw the post above say she’s blocked him. Thanks bloody goodness.

Bibblebibbleblop Mon 26-Aug-24 22:11:48

It’s a scam. 100%. There are warehouses in the states and certain parts of Africa and India where they have 100s of people running romance scams like this. They pour hours into it, and do you know why? Because it works. You’ve already partly fallen for it. It appeals to a really vulnerable part of us. The serviceman one is very popular because of the connotations of trustworthiness. They KNOW that the deep and meaningful conversations give you hope and appeal to our needs. They are trained in how to do this. Please block him immediately and take this as a really important lesson.

Marydoll Mon 26-Aug-24 21:23:49

Sorry, MAW, it is a lost cause, because they will probably not read your post. or the fact that the OP HAS ALREADY BLOCKED AND REPORTED HIM.🤣

RosiesMaw2 Mon 26-Aug-24 21:15:29

Marydoll

Chestnut

This is why I would like GN to allow the OP to have the ability to close the thread when they feel it has been resolved.

Still, I suppose it keeps some people entertained thinking their advice is useful. 😂😂

Unfortunately, I feel the need to read every post then get ratty, when people ignore the fact that the situation has been resolved! 🤣

To all who have posted since this -READ THE FULL THREAD,

JasmineH Mon 26-Aug-24 20:34:18

I am sorry to say, it's a scam. Why don't you do a reverse image search via Google.
I did this when someone tried to befriend me on Facebook. Straightaway, I found out that he was using the image of a real Latino doctor he found available online.

Cambsnan Mon 26-Aug-24 18:25:26

Insist to do a FaceTime with him

Anniepooh Mon 26-Aug-24 17:09:54

No! Do a Google reverse image on his photo to see if it is on the Internet. I wouldn't trust this person as far as I could throw them!

Bellzy Mon 26-Aug-24 15:51:58

This happened to my sister. She was divorced, had two kids and was terribly lonely. He hooked her in completely and was ‘about to come to England to meet her’ when he asked for financial help for his son…. Can’t remember all the details but, luckily, she asked me what I thought and I told her PRECISELY what I thought!! Needless to say to trip to England never happened.

Please, please don’t let yourself become involved. My sister was upset for months, not just because she realised she’s been duped but also because she thought she really liked him. Horrible for her. These people are truly wicked.

Sakura4 Mon 26-Aug-24 14:30:41

THIS IS A SCAM!

TanaMa Mon 26-Aug-24 11:35:52

I know this subject has probably run it's course now but - having watched the T.V. programme relating to this, I could never understand why said 'handsome gent' would really be interested in some of the quite elderly, wrinkled and sometimes'frumpy' ladies they are wooing. Or, an elderly gentleman - probably a widower or divorcee, thinking some lovely Page 3 model, young and a lovely figure, would really be interested (maybe only in his money!). I know 'love is blind' but 'really'??

Marydoll Mon 26-Aug-24 11:26:34

Chestnut

This is why I would like GN to allow the OP to have the ability to close the thread when they feel it has been resolved.

Still, I suppose it keeps some people entertained thinking their advice is useful. 😂😂

Unfortunately, I feel the need to read every post then get ratty, when people ignore the fact that the situation has been resolved! 🤣

Spuddy Mon 26-Aug-24 11:26:05

DON'T FAL.L FOR IT!

It's amazing how they all ''work' in army, navy, medical, oil rigs etc. They're all widowed with loads of kids, all very poor and can only connect through one particular social media site.

HE'S A SCAMMER. DON'T send him anything at all, no photos, money, passports, name, address, emails, phone numbers. NOTHING. Block him on anything and everything.

Seajaye Mon 26-Aug-24 10:55:54

It's a scam. Scammer use real people's profiles which they data scrape from various sources. Once he (or she) has engaged you emotionally he (or she) will be asking you for money quite soon.

There are reputable online dating sites which you pay to subscribe to. These are not without risk, as people can lie on their profiles, but they are less risky than an' out of the blue' contact by a so called perfect match

AGAA4 Mon 26-Aug-24 10:39:10

I agree Marydoll it is rude and interesting and sometimes valuable information is lost. I have learned a lot from other posters on Gransnet.

Chestnut Mon 26-Aug-24 10:23:54

This is why I would like GN to allow the OP to have the ability to close the thread when they feel it has been resolved.

Still, I suppose it keeps some people entertained thinking their advice is useful. 😂😂

Marydoll Mon 26-Aug-24 08:54:50

AGAA4

This enforces my belief that many posters don't read the thread and just keep adding when the situation was resolved way back.

WHY????

I am losing the will to live. I think it is quite rude, not to bother reading the responses, before replying.

AGAA4 Mon 26-Aug-24 08:49:55

This enforces my belief that many posters don't read the thread and just keep adding when the situation was resolved way back.

NannyJan53 Mon 26-Aug-24 08:46:48

NotAGran Georgesgran Marydoll it is all a waste of time telling people it seems shock

This 'advice' could rumble on for aaaaaages!