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Alegria56 Thu 29-Aug-24 16:28:36

Is it ok for a 62 year old man to still want holidays “ golf” abroad with his mates? I’m really uncomfortable with this and can’t help thinking guys get up to all sorts.

Babs03 Thu 29-Aug-24 18:45:28

I seriously think I should get my DH interested in golfing holidays with his friends, then I could take a girls break with my friends. Sounds wonderful. Being together all the time is only great when you haven’t been together all the time.
Get his bags packed 😂

Patsy70 Thu 29-Aug-24 18:53:22

I wish my OH went off for a golfing holiday! He does go to a music jamboree for a long weekend each year, but I’d quite like the house to myself more often! 🤷🏻‍♀️

Jackiest Thu 29-Aug-24 19:27:09

I would never and my partner would never go somewhere and say you can not come. I would always be invited to come and it would be up to me whether I went or not.

JaneJudge Thu 29-Aug-24 19:30:00

some people do get up to all sorts but i imagine most people just go on a golf holiday to play golf, socialise and sleep

Cabbie21 Thu 29-Aug-24 19:35:13

My son goes on cycling, walking, motorcycling weekends with his friends, his wife goes on girls’ weekends. Nothing to worry about.

NotSpaghetti Thu 29-Aug-24 19:53:53

Jackiest I'm not sure she can't go...
It's a golf trip for him and his "mates" really though.
Maybe other wives/partners might go too if it was discussed?

I wouldn't want to go on a golf holiday though. If I played I might feel differently I suppose.

flappergirl Thu 29-Aug-24 20:24:23

It isn't remotely unusual for a married man to go away with male friends, especially to indulge in a hobby, but it depends on all sorts of factors really. Do you have reason not to trust him with other women, alcohol, money or for safety/health reasons? Is he spending money at your expense? In other words are you having to sacrifice a holiday or anything else so he can go? What are the other "boys" like? Are they reckless or prone to womanising?

In my experience no man is completely trustworthy. It doesn't married what age they are or whether they're married or not but what can you do?

janeainsworth Thu 29-Aug-24 20:41:08

MrA has been on several sailing holidays in Scotland with his cronies. It never occurred to me that they would get up to anything other than sailing & the occasional restaurant meal.
The only thing that irritated me was their combined lack of expertise in the shopping department. At the end of the week they divvied up the leftover food & one year he came back with 48 Weetabix.
I don’t like Weetabix.

NotSpaghetti Fri 30-Aug-24 07:57:27

Did he feel deprived in the Weetabix department janeainsworth?
Maybe he brought them back for himself!

Iam64 Fri 30-Aug-24 08:01:59

Enjoying separate as well as joint holidays is a sign of a good relationship

janeainsworth Fri 30-Aug-24 08:11:40

notspaghetti being a child of the ‘waste not, want not’ era, I made him eat them all 😆

dogsmother Fri 30-Aug-24 08:58:45

OH has been doing this for over 20 years, Wharton earth is the problem?
Complete trust and respect between us and trust me he shares all details.

Esmay Fri 30-Aug-24 09:08:01

I think that we all need a break from each other sometimes .
It's likely just to be a golfing holiday without sex with new women (!)
So let him go and enjoy the company of your friends doing something nice that your hubby doesn't enjoy .
Stop worrying !

ExaltedWombat Fri 30-Aug-24 12:10:27

I assure you a 62 year old man could get up to PLENTY if he wanted to! But what he does want to do is probably just golf and booze.

missdeke Fri 30-Aug-24 12:18:46

I worked in a golf resort in Turkey and we always had lots of groups coming over to play. All different ages and all they wanted to do was play golf. The female groups however, were also interested in shopping trips as well, but none of them seemed to have any mischief in mind.

Susieq62 Fri 30-Aug-24 12:23:48

If only my OH would go away for a few days on his own or with mates. A bit of peace, tidy home, out with the ladies etc.
Let him go and have few days to yourself or get away on a break of your choice .

heavenlyheath Fri 30-Aug-24 13:29:34

Definitely ok by me

Debbi58 Fri 30-Aug-24 14:02:19

Definitely, I'd be thinking, Girls Trip 😎

ginny Fri 30-Aug-24 14:16:03

Of course it is normal. My DH goes off for a few days with his golfing mates. He is 72.
I go away with my friends too.

I wonder why the OP is worried?

grandtanteJE65 Fri 30-Aug-24 15:02:30

I hope and trust the man in question is not your husband!

If he is, either you have grounds for questioning his truthfulness and have put up with it for years, or otherwise you for some reason do not trust him.

A sad state of affairs.

How about letting him go off golfing, and find some hobby you can go off on your own to do at times?

sodapop Fri 30-Aug-24 15:05:39

Obviously a trust issue here, do you have reason to worry about your husband going away with his friends Alegria56
I think it's healthy for retired people to have some separate interests, we don't need to be joined at the hip 24/7.

That's a sad generalisation flappergirlto say no man is trustworthy. I'm sorry if you have had bad experiences.

Grammaretto Fri 30-Aug-24 15:27:39

I'm a widow now but we occasionally had separate holidays. I think we appreciated eachother more afterwards.

Norah Fri 30-Aug-24 15:38:53

If a partner strays - it can happen anywhere, no need to go abroad.

EmilyHarburn Fri 30-Aug-24 16:57:00

Its fine to have boys holidays. Excellent that he is able to enjoy friendships with other men. You are lucky. You get some time to yourself to engage perhaps in a girls day - make up session, sorting your wardrobe, seeing friends he doesn't particularly like etc. Enjoy your 'me' time. Tomorrow I take mine to the station to join a walking holiday abroad for 2 weeks. How lovely to have the house to myself! Get up when I want, eat when I want, sit around reading, chatting to friends etc. No one else to thing about. Just lovely. Enjoy your husband's absence. Look forward to his return. We are having a lovely wine and dine at home night tonight. All very romantic.

Lucyd Fri 30-Aug-24 19:39:13

My LH went away every year with a group of his army friends visiting different battlefields, every two years he flew out to the far east to stay with a friend plus he was often away at weekends due to his work. Would never have crossed my mind to question what he was up to. If he had wanted to stray he would have done so. Think it is healthy to spend time apart. Just wish he was still here.