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Alegria56 Thu 29-Aug-24 16:28:36

Is it ok for a 62 year old man to still want holidays “ golf” abroad with his mates? I’m really uncomfortable with this and can’t help thinking guys get up to all sorts.

ginny Fri 30-Aug-24 14:16:03

Of course it is normal. My DH goes off for a few days with his golfing mates. He is 72.
I go away with my friends too.

I wonder why the OP is worried?

Debbi58 Fri 30-Aug-24 14:02:19

Definitely, I'd be thinking, Girls Trip 😎

heavenlyheath Fri 30-Aug-24 13:29:34

Definitely ok by me

Susieq62 Fri 30-Aug-24 12:23:48

If only my OH would go away for a few days on his own or with mates. A bit of peace, tidy home, out with the ladies etc.
Let him go and have few days to yourself or get away on a break of your choice .

missdeke Fri 30-Aug-24 12:18:46

I worked in a golf resort in Turkey and we always had lots of groups coming over to play. All different ages and all they wanted to do was play golf. The female groups however, were also interested in shopping trips as well, but none of them seemed to have any mischief in mind.

ExaltedWombat Fri 30-Aug-24 12:10:27

I assure you a 62 year old man could get up to PLENTY if he wanted to! But what he does want to do is probably just golf and booze.

Esmay Fri 30-Aug-24 09:08:01

I think that we all need a break from each other sometimes .
It's likely just to be a golfing holiday without sex with new women (!)
So let him go and enjoy the company of your friends doing something nice that your hubby doesn't enjoy .
Stop worrying !

dogsmother Fri 30-Aug-24 08:58:45

OH has been doing this for over 20 years, Wharton earth is the problem?
Complete trust and respect between us and trust me he shares all details.

janeainsworth Fri 30-Aug-24 08:11:40

notspaghetti being a child of the ‘waste not, want not’ era, I made him eat them all 😆

Iam64 Fri 30-Aug-24 08:01:59

Enjoying separate as well as joint holidays is a sign of a good relationship

NotSpaghetti Fri 30-Aug-24 07:57:27

Did he feel deprived in the Weetabix department janeainsworth?
Maybe he brought them back for himself!

janeainsworth Thu 29-Aug-24 20:41:08

MrA has been on several sailing holidays in Scotland with his cronies. It never occurred to me that they would get up to anything other than sailing & the occasional restaurant meal.
The only thing that irritated me was their combined lack of expertise in the shopping department. At the end of the week they divvied up the leftover food & one year he came back with 48 Weetabix.
I don’t like Weetabix.

flappergirl Thu 29-Aug-24 20:24:23

It isn't remotely unusual for a married man to go away with male friends, especially to indulge in a hobby, but it depends on all sorts of factors really. Do you have reason not to trust him with other women, alcohol, money or for safety/health reasons? Is he spending money at your expense? In other words are you having to sacrifice a holiday or anything else so he can go? What are the other "boys" like? Are they reckless or prone to womanising?

In my experience no man is completely trustworthy. It doesn't married what age they are or whether they're married or not but what can you do?

NotSpaghetti Thu 29-Aug-24 19:53:53

Jackiest I'm not sure she can't go...
It's a golf trip for him and his "mates" really though.
Maybe other wives/partners might go too if it was discussed?

I wouldn't want to go on a golf holiday though. If I played I might feel differently I suppose.

Cabbie21 Thu 29-Aug-24 19:35:13

My son goes on cycling, walking, motorcycling weekends with his friends, his wife goes on girls’ weekends. Nothing to worry about.

JaneJudge Thu 29-Aug-24 19:30:00

some people do get up to all sorts but i imagine most people just go on a golf holiday to play golf, socialise and sleep

Jackiest Thu 29-Aug-24 19:27:09

I would never and my partner would never go somewhere and say you can not come. I would always be invited to come and it would be up to me whether I went or not.

Patsy70 Thu 29-Aug-24 18:53:22

I wish my OH went off for a golfing holiday! He does go to a music jamboree for a long weekend each year, but I’d quite like the house to myself more often! 🤷🏻‍♀️

Babs03 Thu 29-Aug-24 18:45:28

I seriously think I should get my DH interested in golfing holidays with his friends, then I could take a girls break with my friends. Sounds wonderful. Being together all the time is only great when you haven’t been together all the time.
Get his bags packed 😂

Cossy Thu 29-Aug-24 18:44:38

So long as he is fit and healthy and can afford it, a holiday with his golfing buddies is completely normal.

I went on a 10 day road trip last year, in Turkey, with a friend, my DH was fine!

Ali23 Thu 29-Aug-24 18:42:14

Yes, don’t worry.
My DH goes abroad or in England on short tours with cycling pals.

Astitchintime Thu 29-Aug-24 18:32:14

Foxie48 has hit the nail on the head here.

OP has a very low opinion of all the male human race if she thinks they 'get up to all sorts'.

foxie48 Thu 29-Aug-24 18:25:57

Goodness, I'd be delighted if OH wanted to go on a holiday with his friends as I'd feel less guilty about all the things I do with my friends. Would I worry about him getting up to something? Absolutely not. When I go away with girlfriends does he worry that I'll get up to something? I really don't think so. FGS if you can't trust him to be away for a few days without misbehaving just divorce him and find someone trustworthy.

eazybee Thu 29-Aug-24 17:47:26

Why are you uncomfortable about this?
Don't do what a friend did; she insisted on going on a 'boys' fishing weekend. She ended up doing all the catering , washing up and bed making, while they sat in the rain gazing at the water then talked fish talk all evening.

Allira Thu 29-Aug-24 17:36:42

can’t help thinking guys get up to all sorts

Yes, hitting little balls into little holes with sticks. Then going to the clubhouse, then showering and eating big dinners.
Play, eat, sleep, repeat.