Gay wedding-have you been to one?

Cossy

My daughter and her beautiful wife got married last month.

What a beautiful setting. Hope they will be very happy 😊

A weak argument,

Find it funny when people actually say 'Its not natural'!!! when it so obvious IS. Not brought about by any drugs, or life style, just he way people are born - and stretches right across most mammalian species and birds. Very natural indeed,.

Skydancer

Why on earth would you consider my view odd that someone would not choose someone of the opposite gender ?

Because it’s not a CHOICE!

www.youtube.com/watch?v=_K2JHi3Rh14

for anyone who doesn't know any gay people,
(or thinks they don't ! ),
here are an amiable and interesting couple, who are also helping to enlarge UK/US cultural understanding, which is how i came across them.

The Bible is the living word. It says women shouldn't speak in church. It accepts slavery. It talks of demon possession. Times have changed. We understand the world in a more sophisticated way. W e understand science in a deeper way. We understand sexuality better. The Bible has to be interpreted in the light of the day prayerfully and using the wisdom and learning of others

Skydancer

Why on earth would you consider my view odd that someone would not choose someone of the opposite gender ?

Skydancer. Do you understand that people who are gay are unable to desire a member of the opposite sex? They are born gay in just the same way as you were born straight or tall or short or with blue eyes. It is who they are. It is not a choice or a perversion, which is sadly what I think you might believe.

Surely you don't want a return to illegality where so many people had to live a lie just to keep their jobs, their homes, their sanity. To not be subjected to verbal and physical abuse or even outright violence? Or were driven to suicide? Surely you don't want anyone to have to live that way? Please tell me you don't.

I've never felt uncomfortable with gays of either sex , because my mother had many homosexual friends .
It is a surprising aspect of her personality as she tended to be prudish and narrow minded , but I think that she found them wonderful and fun company .
I think that they were attracted to her because she was so beautiful and glamorous .
I felt upset as a teenager to hear mainly teenage boys making fun of gay men .
My female friends weren't much better .

Attitudes have changed .

As a Christian , it pains me that the Bible is against homosexuality .

That's fine .

I reserve my interpretation and my Vicar , who is happy to perform gay marriage services agrees with me .

But recently , I've want to do some nude life drawing . The classes are a hike .
Unbelievably in this enlightened day and age I do have to be careful in finding female models - it seems to cause raised eyebrows and lewd comments .
My sexuality has been questioned !

One of my ACs best friends, has been since school, is gay and married, went to the wedding and loved it. They are thinking of having a family. They are a lovely couple and both me and my DH are friends with his family. The couple have been to stay with us and we love spending time with them, they are very much like members of our family.

welbeck

Skydancer

MissInterpreted I feel uncomfortable with the idea of being gay as it is not natural. Also - and I really do not understand this - in a male gay relationship, for example, why is one person effeminate? In a lesbian relationship why is one person quite masculine? If this is what the other partner wants then why not choose someone of the opposite sex?

i rest my case

Sky dancer, I don’t mean to offend but your comment made me wonder of you’ve lived a sheltered life. Your question about why one man in a gay relationship is effeminate and one partner in a lesbian relationship is ‘quite masculine’ has no resemblance to the relatiinships my gay and lesbian friends have.
You go on in another post to say it’s ridiculous to suggest you could ‘fancy anyone of the same gender’. You might be surprised how many people do.

I have five gay friends nearby .
Two couples and one singleton .
I really enjoy their company-they are more fun than my unfriendly neighbours ,who only speak to me when they want to know something about my private business .
I haven't been to any weddings , but I wouldn't feel uncomfortable .

mumofmadboys

Jesus never commented on same sex relationships.

But the Bible certainly does!

And the teachings of the Church have caused a lot of heartache.

Skydancer

MissInterpreted I feel uncomfortable with the idea of being gay as it is not natural. Also - and I really do not understand this - in a male gay relationship, for example, why is one person effeminate? In a lesbian relationship why is one person quite masculine? If this is what the other partner wants then why not choose someone of the opposite sex?

i rest my case

well maybe a gay person could never fancy someone of the opposite gender.
so there's your answer as to why they don't pick someone of the opposite gender.
you asked the question, or mused upon it, in one of your earlier postings.
and i found it quite strange.

Because I could never fancy anyone of the same gender. What a ridiculous question.

well, why didn't you choose someone of the same gender ?

Why on earth would you consider my view odd that someone would not choose someone of the opposite gender ?

Skydancer, people fall in love with an individual.
maybe your understanding would enlarge with more awareness; there are many youtube videos by/with gay couples.
maybe your life has been quite isolated ?
because your views seem so strange, esp asking why a person does not choose someone of opposite gender.
i can't properly express what i mean here.
perhaps someone else can do better.

Live and let live, just be happy for the couple. They are harming no-one.

Skydancer

Goodness… I only said what I think. Sorry if most of you don’t agree with me.

My only surprise is your surprise that most of don’t agree with you.

I feel sad for you

“Freya5
Cossy
My daughter and her beautiful wife got married last month.
Looks quite beautiful 🥂 .”

Thank you “Freya” it was a beautiful day x

If you think or have to ask about feeling uncomfortable, you shouldn’t go.

Skydancer

MissInterpreted I feel uncomfortable with the idea of being gay as it is not natural. Also - and I really do not understand this - in a male gay relationship, for example, why is one person effeminate? In a lesbian relationship why is one person quite masculine? If this is what the other partner wants then why not choose someone of the opposite sex?

If you look back at my earlier reply I think you’ll find what you think simply isn’t true.

We have many “gays” within our family group and wider circle of friends. They are just so “normal!” Some couples are both quite masculine, both genders, some less so. Just like any straight couple. My husband is much more smartly dressed than me, I wear quite masculine clothes sometimes. We are straight.

Why, oh why, have we not moved on from these silly conversations?

We, humans, are all different, in many different ways.

As for it “not being natural”, gays, like “ladies of the night” have been around since the year dot.

Jesus never commented on same sex relationships.

Goodness… I only said what I think. Sorry if most of you don’t agree with me.