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Gay wedding-have you been to one?

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mrsgreenfingers56 Tue 01-Oct-24 16:35:27

Have you ever attended a gay wedding?

Did you feel comfortable?

MissChateline Tue 01-Oct-24 23:13:05

My gay wedding to my wife was the best and happiest day of my life. The divorce is another story!

Katek Tue 01-Oct-24 22:26:57

Yes and it was a lovely day. I was actually the best woman for two very good friends I'd known for over 20 years. Why would I be uncomfortable?

Luckygirl3 Tue 01-Oct-24 22:25:49

My friend's DD has just married her female partner. Both women have exactly the same names - both first and middle names - and now they share a surname. Deciding who opens the post is going to be a challenge!

Charleygirl5 Tue 01-Oct-24 22:24:37

A brother and sister who live doors away from me are good friends and one is my next of kin. Sadly neither has come out.

I have never been to a gay wedding but nothing would stop me if invited.

When I was working for a large organisation the top three bosses were lesbians.

Marydoll Tue 01-Oct-24 22:20:51

I have been to two, my nephew's and my friend's son, whom I have known since he was born.

I certainly did not feel uncomfortable, why would I?

Georgesgran Tue 01-Oct-24 21:55:47

Yes and yes.
Both groom and groom wore kilts! The only ‘hiccup’ was when a passersby was asked to take a picture and hesitated. When asked about the delay, she replied that she was waiting for the bride. Amongst a bit of laughter, Alex stepped forward and said ‘that’ll be me’. Sadly Alex’s husband died just a few short years later.

LOUISA1523 Tue 01-Oct-24 19:37:34

Cossy

My daughter and her beautiful wife got married last month.

Loving that pink suit !!!

downtoearth Tue 01-Oct-24 19:20:05

Never been to a gay wedding , but have many friends, who just happen to have same sex partners, no problem love is love, whoever you love.
How sad it would be hiding away never knowing how it feels to love and be loved.

Sago Tue 01-Oct-24 19:18:55

Yes I have been to a gay wedding, sadly the happy couple are now divorced.
It was a lovely day and I certainly didn’t feel uncomfortable!

Rosie51 Tue 01-Oct-24 19:14:12

Meant to say cossy didn't your daughter and her wife make a lovely couple! Congratulations to you all.

Rosie51 Tue 01-Oct-24 19:12:23

Yes I've been to a few same sex marriages, many opposite sex marriages and they all had one thing in common. Two people publicly delaring their love and commitment to each other, surrounded by people they had chosen to celebrate with them. All were wonderful in their own way, some grand, some very simple, most somewhere in the middle. Did I ever feel uncomfortable? Only once when in Church while the couple were taking their vows my toddler decided now was the time to sing a solo! Being nobody's fool and like the best boy scouts, always prepared, I quickly found a biscuit from my bag. We were too far back for them to hear his smacking of lips.

FriedGreenTomatoes2 Tue 01-Oct-24 19:05:45

No.
Last summer my cousin’s daughter married a woman of a similar age. We were invited but Himself was poorly or we would have gone. Both girls looked beautiful.

There’s not enough love in the world as far as I’m concerned so I’m a big fan of it wherever it comes from.

MissInterpreted Tue 01-Oct-24 19:04:26

Tenko

I’m actually quite sad that you’ve asked this question. My son is gay and I thought negatively about same sex relationships wasn’t an issue now .
A same sex marriage is just like a straight marriage . Two people who love each other and want to spend their lives together.
Not withstanding our gay son . We know a quite a lot of gay and lesbian couples . And some older couples who were afraid to come out for many decades .

Well said. What's not to love about two people who love each other and want to spend their lives together? Surely that is something to be celebrated, full stop?

Lisaangel10 Tue 01-Oct-24 19:01:22

Never been to a gay wedding but have seen plenty of photos on social media and it intrigues me why, often, one of the women dresses like a man. Yet to see a gay male dressed as a woman on their wedding day though.

I went to choose a wedding day card for a friend recently and they were quite boring. I picked up one that looked classy and a bit different and realised at the till it said “Congratulations Mr and Mr.”

Tenko Tue 01-Oct-24 18:53:15

I’m actually quite sad that you’ve asked this question. My son is gay and I thought negatively about same sex relationships wasn’t an issue now .
A same sex marriage is just like a straight marriage . Two people who love each other and want to spend their lives together.
Not withstanding our gay son . We know a quite a lot of gay and lesbian couples . And some older couples who were afraid to come out for many decades .

seadragon Tue 01-Oct-24 18:27:10

I was invited to a double hen night by prospective bride and her bride. I was the only one from my social work (!) team who went.... The other members were all 'afluff' about what to do if either bride hugged or kissed them..... Had a lovely evening with both brides and their friends. Also attended their post honeymoon gathering in their lovely home and garden along with DH and had enjoyed making them a textile picture of 2 seahorses subsequently receiving a handmade 'Thank you' card from them also featuring 2 seahorses....
www.dominiqueokonkwo.com/post/seahorse-love-lessons-on-couple-bonding-and-parenting

Oreo Tue 01-Oct-24 18:25:46

62Granny

It all depends on how you feel a gay relationship and marriage to start with,who? if you have deep seated negative views on them I don't think you would feel happy going. But if you just think it is two people making a life time commitment to each other, then go and enjoy.

Good comment, not everyone feels comfortable at a same sex marriage so unless you’re a parent or close relative best not to go if that’s how you feel.
We don’t know anyone who’s gay so unlikely to be asked to a wedding.

62Granny Tue 01-Oct-24 18:22:07

It all depends on how you feel a gay relationship and marriage to start with,who? if you have deep seated negative views on them I don't think you would feel happy going. But if you just think it is two people making a life time commitment to each other, then go and enjoy.

Mollygo Tue 01-Oct-24 18:14:49

Yes. Lots of the school staff were invited both to the wedding and the reception and we’re still in touch now, though he got a promotion in a school further down the country so they moved.

Jewelle Tue 01-Oct-24 18:11:36

Yes I have and it was wonderful ♥️

pandapatch Tue 01-Oct-24 18:09:16

Yes, it was a lovely occasion and I felt entirely comfortable. Are you asking the question for any particular reason?

welbeck Tue 01-Oct-24 18:06:56

what some non-gay people might do behind closed doors would make me shudder.
just as well i don't know.

paddyann54 Tue 01-Oct-24 18:01:43

Why insist on saying “Gay”wedding? It’s no different to other weddings ,it really irritates me just as much as when my lovely niece and her long time fiancé were refused permission to marry in a church they had worked tirelessly for for two decades.
It’s just two people exchanging vows ,what they do behind closed doors makes no difference to the vows or to anyone else .

welbeck Tue 01-Oct-24 17:58:55

i guess people wouldn't go if it made them feel uncomfortable. ?

heath480 Tue 01-Oct-24 17:56:40

What a strange question!! Why would anyone feel uncomfortable? Two people in love,wonderful.