Gay wedding-have you been to one?

Yes, I have. My step-GS is gay and married his partner.

It was like any other sort of wedding - full of joy, but, obviously no meringue frocks.

All good. 👍

I haven't read every comment, but I would like to say that this should be a place where posters can anonymously share misgivings and worries, and get support.
If someone has led a 'sheltered life' then some aspects of modern life can seem disconcerting, and asking for help in navigating them is OK in my book.
A close relative asked me for support in being not just accepting of her gay grandchild, but actively welcoming their partner. We spoke of finding joy in love, and being a better person with the right partner. By being able to 'clear away' her misgivings at something unfamiliar, she was able to be very welcoming to a gay partner who is a valued member of our family.

I hope this conversation has been helpful to posters.

Skydancer , you have had some harsh comments. However please stop and think , your views are so dated and misguided - why on earth would you generalize about gay couples - one being effeminate and one not ! This may be the case but may not ethe case. I am relieved for any children you may have that they are heterosexual. If you had to witness the distress of a loved 19 year old coming out to his Mum and extended family then I sincerely hope you would wrap them in your love , tell them they would be ok and change your outdated views!

nanna8

It depends what ‘marriage’ means to you. I take the biblical view that it is between men and women. Spare us the patronising comments and I believe Skydancer is totally entitled to her /his view. That is my belief and faith. However, friendship and partnerships and love I would never condemn, no matter who they are.

Good comment👏🏻👏🏻

Mollygo

Actually, MrsSquirrel. you’ve probably said just what anyone who feels uncomfortable would do. Simply decline the invitation.
I doubt if any of those who feel uncomfortable would say anything to
sour the couple’s big day if they decided to go.

Exactly.
Depending on how well I knew the couple getting married and if it mattered if I attended or not I’d need to think about whether I would like to see a same sex marriage ceremony.
Tbh I wouldn’t like it, and DP def wouldn’t like it.Since we don’t know any gay couples it prob won’t ever happen so it’s hypothetical.
Just something about two grooms or two brides that I find jarring.

Me too Iam x

Thanks Annie x I didn’t think you were directing at us but happy I clarified

No Izm you don’t do forced, many spoke of joy etc, I thought
why , let all weddings be the same, joy, laughter, love, it’s what weddings bring , sorry if I seemed critical

I do hope you aren’t saying the joy at the wedding I detailed was forced Annie x

I am sure there was joy Iam ,i thought the emphasis on the joy etc seemed forced,

Anniebach, I acknowledge your point but - my immediate thought went to the extra tears of joy and high emotion when my son in law’s brother and his partner if 10 years married last year. The grooms were late 30’s and remembered how hard it was to come out to their families - in different countries they’d not yet met but both returned home after first term at university finally ready to be honest with family and friends about their sexuality.
They have a 6 year old child. Neither of them had imaged they could have a family or marry. High emotion understandable, especially from their mothers

Actually, MrsSquirrel. you’ve probably said just what anyone who feels uncomfortable would do. Simply decline the invitation.
I doubt if any of those who feel uncomfortable would say anything to
sour the couple’s big day if they decided to go.

Yes it is so why the need to emphasise it fo4 same sex marriages

Anniebach

Is it not the same at every wedding , happy and joyful , everyone having a wonderful time ?

Isn’t that the point, Anniebach? Weddings are happy times, whoever is involved, so it doesn’t matter if they are of the same or opposite sexes.

Nobody has said they would sour anyone's day.
A question was asked on a forum, and they answered it, that's all.

If mrsgreenfingers, Skydancer, nanna8 or anyone else feels uncomfortable about attending a gay wedding, they should probably decline the invitation. Why risk souring the couple's big day? You wouldn't enjoy it anyway.

Is it not the same at every wedding , happy and joyful , everyone having a wonderful time ?

Some years ago I was having afternoon tea in a large hotel where a wedding was taking place. Guests and family were going in and out of a couple of reception rooms, when suddenly I realised that there were two brides, both in pretty white dresses. The atmosphere was very happy and joyful; clearly everyone was having a wonderful time. I felt envious and wished I was a guest!

People have been selective about the bible from day one. And this applies to all religious texts.

This is why, in my book, they have no validity - written by humans, interpreted differently by other humans. Not a basis for controlling peoples' lives I feel.

So much selecting from The Bible,

It depends what ‘marriage’ means to you. I take the biblical view that it is between men and women. Spare us the patronising comments and I believe Skydancer is totally entitled to her /his view. That is my belief and faith. However, friendship and partnerships and love I would never condemn, no matter who they are.

Regardless of if anyone agrees, skydancer answered the question honestly.

There are going to be people who feel uncomfortable about all sorts of normal things in life.

Mt61

Yes my aunt had a gay marriage/ blessing after many years of being married to a male.
It was was a lovely service & still together many years later

How lovely that your Aunt has found happiness.

Mt61

Thank you and great news about your Aunt.

Yes my aunt had a gay marriage/ blessing after many years of being married to a male.
It was was a lovely service & still together many years later