My son has been living with his partner in a house they are buying together. He’s 43, she’s 37, she wants to marry and have a family. He’s tells us he is 70 /30 in favour of marrying her but is obviously not totally convinced . He is a serious person, quite gentle and likes to have deep discussions about politics, books etc and is is sometimes a bit neurotic. His partner really loves him but she is uncomplicated, quite sporty and loves travel, mountaineering. (We get on very well with her) He voiced his doubts to us, his parents, saying that although he loves her, finds her really attractive and good fun, she never wants to talk about any of the serious or darker issues in their lives, such as their differing attitudes to money/finance She just wants problems to “go away” . He thinks their differences could be a problem for him long term.
He has taken a long time to “grow up”, he dossed around smoking dope, trying to be a musician until he was 30, but then pulled himself together and has a professional career.
So I wondered how others would advise their son?
