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AnneWilson Wed 20-Nov-24 12:21:44

Hello,

I live by myself and I wanted some help on this one please. My next door neighbours are in their 20s and dont work. When they did work it was only for a few months. The thing is they are always trying to get money from me using manipluation, getting me to feel sorry for them. They message me on facebook, if I dont reply they knock my door. They even turn up at supermarkets I am at trying to manipulate me. Any ideas what to do? Thank you

nanna8 Wed 20-Nov-24 12:23:57

I would get a restraining order and report them to the police quite frankly. That’s what they do here, perhaps it is different in the UK? It is called elder abuse.

Marg75 Wed 20-Nov-24 12:49:04

That sounds really frightening, do you have anyone that you talk to about this? You shouldn't face this alone.

Jaxjacky Wed 20-Nov-24 12:53:50

Harassment, it’s a crime, report them.

Retread Wed 20-Nov-24 12:56:54

Anne I hope that isn't your real name, these forums are public and anyone can read them online.

I'm sorry you have such awful neighbours . My advice is, block them on Facebook, ignore them when they knock on the door or if you see them out and about. If they still continue to bother you after this, tell your local police.

Good luck.

Babs03 Wed 20-Nov-24 13:01:51

Retread

Anne I hope that isn't your real name, these forums are public and anyone can read them online.

I'm sorry you have such awful neighbours . My advice is, block them on Facebook, ignore them when they knock on the door or if you see them out and about. If they still continue to bother you after this, tell your local police.

Good luck.

Agree with this.
Don’t try face to face confrontations, just avoid and block. You have the right to not answer the door or reply to their requests, and if they turn up when you are out shopping etc., be civil then make the excuse you are rushing to be somewhere and walk off. Don’t engage. Don’t respond. Don’t talk more than a civil hello then move on.
If they persist as others have said ring the police and report them.
All the best.
🌺

TopGunner Wed 20-Nov-24 13:13:19

Go straight to the police or ring them up if you don't have a police station nearby then ask them to visit you.

Do you have family who can sort this problem out.

M0nica Wed 20-Nov-24 13:21:47

You could also speak to your local branch of age UK or Citizen's Advice. You can get local contact details by googling them. You could also speak to social services.

However, like others, I think the polic should be your first port of call. Remember to tell the police how aold you are.

Madgran77 Wed 20-Nov-24 17:45:21

Definitely the police. And block them. And dont answer the door. And in the supermarket say excuse me and walk away 💐

Granmarderby10 Wed 20-Nov-24 17:52:56

Police!

DiamondLily Wed 20-Nov-24 17:57:19

Block them on Facebook for a start. No one, other than those people I know well, is on mine.🙂

M0nica Wed 20-Nov-24 18:04:17

This could be an attempt at 'cuckooing' where drug dealers try to take over the homes of people perceived vulnerable - disabled people, elderly people on their own - so that they can deal drugs from their house.

I am with everyone else. Call the police.

GrannyIvy Wed 20-Nov-24 18:10:57

Block on social media and inform the police. Don’t answer your door to them and if they harrass you in the supermarket shout help as loud as you can to get attention and let the staff there know there is a problem . This is awful.

Babs03 Wed 20-Nov-24 18:15:36

@Anne please come back on here and let us know how things are going or just to have a chat about things, you are no alone with this.
Also please change your username if that is your real name.

Daddima Wed 20-Nov-24 19:07:26

I don’t think going to police is a very good idea. From reading Anne’s post I’d imagine they would just say they were worried that you hadn’t replied to their message, so they were checking on you, and it’s not a crime to go to the same supermarket as you.
Do you mean they have been giving you a sob story and you have been giving them money? Have they ‘latched on’ to you in a supermarket to get you to buy things for them? This can all be done without them being threatening or aggressive. If that is what’s happening, then I’m afraid you’ll just have to stop the handouts.

M0nica Thu 21-Nov-24 22:31:37

Daddima I dsagree with you profoundly. Going to the police is essential. I do not think that they would react to her complaints as you suggest or be so naive when those causing the problem 'explain everything'

I think the police will be made aware of someone vulnerable and at risk and the knowledge that the police ar poking around may be all the offenders need to back off.

However, I continue to think that this may me an example of an attempt to 'cuckoo' this lady. Cuckooing, officially, is when the home of vulnerable person is taken over by drug dealers, but there are plenty of other cases, where events as described by this lady occur, where younger criminal people will try to befriend and then take over a vulnerable person, ask them for money, then try and get more information about their finances, then start visiting, then co erce, take over bank cards, and then take over the home.

Next time Anne leaves the house, it should be to go to the police.

Ailsa43 Fri 22-Nov-24 05:45:36

I'm afraid I would not only blok them on FB and not answer the door, I would absolutely inform the police, because they're commiting a crime, and god forbid, what if they decide to break into your house to get money.. and possibly injure you. At the very least the police have to know who these people are and warn them off..before somrthing more serious happens to you

BlueBelle Fri 22-Nov-24 08:10:36

Why are they even on your FB page reset your privacy settings so only who you choose can see your FB page
Do you have any relatives or friends around to help you
I think it should be reported to the police they should (hopefully) take it seriously and please please say no to any ‘lends’ it doesn’t have to be nasty just a I m so sorry I m really low myself at the moment don’t have anything spare
You have been too kind and it’s biting you in the bum now
Put a stop to it or it will escalate