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Talking of being married in white, should you really have done it ( if you did)?

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Daddima Fri 29-Nov-24 12:10:58

The talk of Queen Camilla and other royals being married in white made me wonder how many ā€˜impure’ white brides there were when I married. I know I only made it on a technicality!
I know when contemporaries of mine were married ā€˜at short notice’, they often wore bridal regalia, but in pastel shades. Others wore coat and dress ensembles, usually with hat, and baby usually arrived about 6 months later!
Changed days now, when the couple’s children are often pages or bridesmaids at mum and dad’s wedding.
So, what about you?
( You can ā€˜no comment’ if you wish, but we’ll know! šŸ˜€)

MissAdventure Fri 29-Nov-24 19:50:11

The Bible doesn't mention marrying in white, but it does say that a white wedding gown represents the work of Jesus and the Holy Spirit. A white wedding gown is a symbol of the Holy Spirit's work of changing hearts and making people new.

That's what AI says about wearing white.

Georgesgran Fri 29-Nov-24 19:44:15

1972 - I wore red.

MissAdventure Fri 29-Nov-24 19:44:15

I was told by a vicar that white represents new beginnings.

I've no idea what the bible says about it.

escaped Fri 29-Nov-24 19:39:41

What about ivory? I think that's a symbol of purity too.

Smileless2012 Fri 29-Nov-24 19:23:13

Yes white is a symbol of purity so when you ask those who wore white on their wedding day if they should have done it, and are not asking if they were a virgin on their wedding day, then what are you asking Daddima?

Fartooold Fri 29-Nov-24 19:16:48

Register Office here and wore a maternity dress explanation not necessary 😱!

Fleurpepper Fri 29-Nov-24 19:15:59

henetha

I had the smallest wedding ever...only 4 people attended. I wore a navy blue suit with a white trim around the collar.
I definitely was not pregnant.

Only 4 allowed by doctors at our wedding, the day after a massive operation. Only our two witnesses. My parents were allowed to come in afterwards for a few minutes.

V3ra Fri 29-Nov-24 19:01:11

We weren’t allowed to tell my 14 year old sil-to-be that we were living together!

We lived together before our wedding, in 1977, as well.

When my Granny was told I was getting married, she said, "I didn't even know she had a boyfriend!"
I asked where she thought I'd been living for the past year?
"You don't think we've told her that!" was my parents angry reply.

I hadn't realised I was the family disgrace šŸ˜‚

henetha Fri 29-Nov-24 18:58:54

I had the smallest wedding ever...only 4 people attended. I wore a navy blue suit with a white trim around the collar.
I definitely was not pregnant.

ferry23 Fri 29-Nov-24 18:42:37

I wore emerald green which apparently, as someone told me on my wedding day, is unlucky. Boy was she right grin grin

Witzend Fri 29-Nov-24 18:36:56

I was married in 1974 and I don’t recall anyone then still under the impression that a white dress was a sign of virginity. I certainly wasn’t, but we weren’t married in church and I didn’t want a trad. white dress anyway. My mother told me I’d regret it for ever more if I didn’t have one, but I never once have.

For anyone still to think that a white dress means bridal purity strikes me as an idea straight out of the ark! Or at any rate, certainly from before the 60s!

Fleurpepper Fri 29-Nov-24 18:26:46

I wore white- a hospital theatre gown, with a drip and cage over. LOL

If we had not got married in hospital, I would not have worn white, as I was definitely not entitled to ;)

valdavi Fri 29-Nov-24 18:24:41

I took the OP's question to be that most brides wore white & maybe a lot of us weren't virgins certainly once the pill was around & so the whole thing was bit "keeping up appearances" even back then.
I wore grey skirt & top & a chipper hat, for a church wedding in 86.

Grannybags Fri 29-Nov-24 18:19:38

We ā€˜lived in sin’ šŸ˜‚ Married in a registry office wearing rust! We weren’t allowed to tell my 14 year old sil-to-be that we were living together!

paddyann54 Fri 29-Nov-24 18:04:46

Surely we,ve all left the ā€œentitled towear whiteā€ stuff behind us .Thats where it belongs,I know a woman whose family disowned her because she got pregnant before she was married,I,d hate to think that attitude still survives even amongst older women who should know better.
It destroyed lives evenin the late 60,s early70,s

Oldbat1 Fri 29-Nov-24 18:02:56

Pointless ?. Who cares.

keepingquiet Fri 29-Nov-24 17:21:35

I wore cream lace. It was far more flattering than white. None of your business lol!

Daddima Fri 29-Nov-24 17:18:45

petra

Sago

So basically the OP is asking who walked down the aisle a virgin.

I find this a little bizarre.

So do I šŸ¤·ā€ā™€ļø Weird.
Who thinks ^i’ll ask the members if they were virgins when they married^

I must not have worded my post well enough. Had I wanted to know who were virgins when they married, I should have asked ā€˜ Were you a virgin when you married?’

My question was asked because someone seemed to object to Queen Camilla wearing white when she married ( even though she didn’t). White used to be symbol of purity, but obviously things have changed drastically now, with a couple’s children often attending lavish ā€˜white’ weddings.

HowVeryDareYou2 Fri 29-Nov-24 14:44:08

I wore a white wedding dress, although we'd been living together for a year. Being the only daughter, I wanted to please my parents (they paid for the dress too)

shysal Fri 29-Nov-24 14:33:19

My husband and I decided to wait until we were married, so I wore white. I thought that if we had children we could truthfully tell them that we had been virgins. Waste of time! They both lived with their partners before marriage, and it didn't worry me.
We divorced after about 30 pretty miserable years, so 'try before you buy' might have given a different outcome.¬

V3ra Fri 29-Nov-24 14:25:25

But we had to have separate rooms every time we visited the family before the wedding.......

Same here. Then when we visited after our wedding my in-laws gave us their bed to sleep in.
I was horrified šŸ˜‚

Mollygo Fri 29-Nov-24 14:24:07

I wore white-deservedly, but the wind refused to let me keep a veil over my face. Nasty suspicious mind that wind had!!

Celieanne86 Fri 29-Nov-24 14:11:47

1960 I wore a short white dress I made myself and a veil over my face, two bridesmaids in lilac, I had to do what was expected by my mother.We certainly hadn’t lived together we hardly dared hold hands in front of my dad 😱
When I found out I was pregnant 18 months after I was too embarrassed to tell them and my sister did it for me,
You really can’t believe it today especially when my pregnant g.daughter gave me all the details of her conception problems !

petra Fri 29-Nov-24 14:03:30

Sago

So basically the OP is asking who walked down the aisle a virgin.

I find this a little bizarre.

So do I šŸ¤·ā€ā™€ļø Weird.
Who thinks i’ll ask the members if they were virgins when they married

BlueSapphire Fri 29-Nov-24 13:51:50

But we had to have separate rooms every time we visited the family before the wedding.......