Sharing and over sharing

Allira

^Actually my question was, should I say anything to the writer of the (email) letter^

I wouldn't but you are probably not the only one to receive it so someone else might say something to the parents.
Wait to see if the proverbial hits the fan.

I agree with Allira’s post on this and as it’s already out there now you saying anything will not make a jot of difference it’s a shame for the poor 13 year old.

Actually my question was, should I say anything to the writer of the (email) letter

I wouldn't but you are probably not the only one to receive it so someone else might say something to the parents.
Wait to see if the proverbial hits the fan.

Tanjamaltija

This person wanted to make you feel as if he is your friend, sitting across from you, on the armchair. Well, he's not, because I bet that if you told him you had problems, he'd be telling the next person he met in the queue at the supermarket. So - say nothing, because he wants you to ask about the child. Tear up the card into little pieces, just in case a guest feels the need to read the messages on your cards.

Absolutely and because I bet that if you told him you had problems, he'd be telling the next person he met in the queue at the supermarket is on the nail!

Some people share all their most intimate family problems with others but surely they must realise that others do not always keep these things to themselves.

I hope that teenager never sees one of those letters, it's a betrayal by a grandparent.

Don't say anything.

Oh dear.

Allsorts

Rosie, You said the round robin had too much information, thats what they contain, I personally don't like them, everyone free to do as they wish, I might put a message in a card but not several pages full of my year.

Actually my question was, should I say anything to the writer of the (email) letter. Read my last para.
There was a thread about round robins/Christmas letters last week when most of what needed saying was said.

I think they were wrong to share such information but it’s not your place to say anything.

Rosie, You said the round robin had too much information, thats what they contain, I personally don't like them, everyone free to do as they wish, I might put a message in a card but not several pages full of my year.

You know it's strange. I used to write odd bits of family news,never personal things in a card. I stopped and really never did it again and I think it was reading about how unwelcome they were. Mind you the amount of personal stuff that people put on Fussbook is phenominal! I'm not surprised scammers are so successful. I no longer have F/ book, got to the stage I couldn't stand it. I did not realise that the OP was talking about an email, I would say nothing and delete. Past experience has taught me don't get involved as you will get the blame.

Allsorts

I can’t stand Round Robins, might read first paragraph which tells of their brilliant offspring which is really saying, all my own work, then bin.

Why say this here?
Totally irrelevant- there is a Christmas letter thread and your post here is quite hurtful n this context.

I can’t stand Round Robins, might read first paragraph which tells of their brilliant offspring which is really saying, all my own work, then bin.

mae13

A lot of Round Robins are almost marvellous crafts of fiction which, I suppose, filled a couple of hours on a wet weekend.
Whether ANYYHING in them is remotely true is worthy of a Parliamentary Debate alone.

How, with respect, totally irrelevant in this context.

A lot of Round Robins are almost marvellous crafts of fiction which, I suppose, filled a couple of hours on a wet weekend.
Whether ANYYHING in them is remotely true is worthy of a Parliamentary Debate alone.

I wonder if the sender’s family are aware of what is being emailed as I receive a round robin letter from my DIL parents and unless I showed her and our son they’d never know what is being sent out as they never receive a copy neither do any other the family that’s included in it.

Yep I get one of those too, but with mine it is the mother herself who shares EVERYTHING about her children, grandcildren and great children. Nothing is missed out. My child would be furious.

Don't say anything, then nothing can come back to you. In other words always cover your own back.

I receive one 'round robin' but it is full of information about the sender's family's ailments, children, grandchildren and a great grandchild. Even her partner's haemorrhoids.
Cruises would be a welcome distraction.

Apologies, RosiesMaw2 I thought it was a "she" too. You know what they say about assumptions...ass, u and me!

Could he just have chosen to give the MH information to people he can trust and need to off load?

I have never recieved a round Robin neither have I sent one. I think I would say nothing to this person, he/she obviously see's you as someone he can say that too.
I would keep my reply friendly but I would not mention the personal things he wrote.

Then I thought about it and if she was sharing about a broken arm, or having tonsils out would that be OK or not.
Those were my thoughts too Sazz1 - if it had been a sports injury would I have felt uncomfortable?
I think it’s the potential MH element and agree that people (in this case perhaps the parents, perhaps not) can feel more discretion needs to be exercised.
Hence my question. Thank you for “getting” it.

Tanjamaltija

This person wanted to make you feel as if he is your friend, sitting across from you, on the armchair. Well, he's not, because I bet that if you told him you had problems, he'd be telling the next person he met in the queue at the supermarket. So - say nothing, because he wants you to ask about the child. Tear up the card into little pieces, just in case a guest feels the need to read the messages on your cards.

How the * do you know “he’s not my friend” - honestly the assumptions people make.
1) there was NO CARD
2) it’s a family member (close actually) , he doesn’t necessarily want me to ask, so please DON’T ASSUME things you do not know.
3) If I was vague about the relationship it was purely for the sake of anonymity- but I hardly needed to worry as some people don’t even read the thread!

Guess it’s best to say nothing. It does seem a bit too personal. A distant relative shared a photo on Facebook a few years ago about her toddler in hospital with suspected meningitis- I did think if that was me I’d be too occupied with my child to spend time taking photos and posting on Facebook !

The first thing I thought was the child's mental health struggles should really be kept private
Then I thought about it and if she was sharing about a broken arm, or having tonsils out would that be OK or not?
I think mental ill health is still quite a taboo subject for many people which can suppress people needing help.
I don't really know the answer but personally I wouldn't say anything to the person sending the round robin.

I would keep quiet and Chuck / delete it -agree with you and find these round robins both boastful and boring talking about people I don’t know but there you go some people send them !