Sharing and over sharing

when in doubt best to say nowt

another nowt vote.

I don’t think you are being over sensitive Maw. For myself I wouldn’t say anything and keep out of what has been said. I wouldn’t like it one bit though if this was my child and would probably speak up to my parent if I found out what had been written.

I agree the sender of the Round Robin has overstepped the boundaries of privacy. If I were you I would just say nothing. It's up to the family mentioned in the Christmas letter to comment, if they see fit.

Oh dear. That's just not right. Difficult situation. I most likely wouldn't be able to stop myself saying just what you mentioned Maw.

For this reason, I dislike Round Robin's.

Marydoll

For this reason, I dislike ^Round Robin's.^

Me too, like Maw my heart sinks …

Say nowt but it is totally over sharing, such details should be kept within the confines of the parents, the school, and the child, with everyone else on a ‘need to know’ basis and I don’t think recipients of a round robin need to know.

Definately someone doesn't know the boundaries.

There is a trend to 'overshare' with others now. I think it comes from a backlash against things being covered up in the past, but now young people are just exposed to yet more privacy invasions and I think it's wrong.

I recall years ago someone sharing a pic of her child in hospital on Facebook. I was appalled but people thought I was the weird one. Mum getting lots of sympathy messages but that child is now 18 and I wonder...

I agree it's over sharing but agree with others that saying nowt is best. If you did drop a hint Rosies would they be sensitive enough to pick up on it?

This sort of thing isn't extended-family 'news' and certainly shouldn't be shared far and wide as general chit-chat.
My AC would be appalled is I shared their 'problems' with my aunts brothers best friends cousin twice removed dog!

I’d say nowt. Usually in such a situation YOU’D be the one to come off worst too. Embarrassment then annoyance on their part would make YOU the target I wouldn’t mind betting. 🎯
Even though you’re right.

I dislike those Round Robin letters. I get one every year from the mother of my son’s ex girlfriend. She encloses it in her Xmas card - any day now 😫 My children would hate it if I started giving all and sundry, details of their lives.
Don’t say anything. The respective family members can have a word with her, if they are not happy.

I would not say anything and dispose of the card when Christmas is over.

I never share confidentialities or gossip, although I do hear quite a lot. As for a family member having problems, having a “heads up” why things are not as they should be is useful.
I have a GS (21) who has just had a dramatic breakup with a GF, my daughter has warned me to be sensitive, that was good.

Homestead62

I would not say anything and dispose of the card when Christmas is over.

It was an email

A Christmas letter is not the place to discuss sensitive information of any description but the letter has gone out to all and sundry, so too late for advice. Say nothing. Unless the email can be edited and she discussed his problems with you because you were a teacher?

Say nothing, the writer is being rather cruel, thoughtless and narcissistic, using the angst of a teenager to fill their horrible Christmas card.

Desdemona

Say nothing, the writer is being rather cruel, thoughtless and narcissistic, using the angst of a teenager to fill their horrible Christmas card.

1 It was not a Christmas card - horrible or otherwise.
2 How could you possibly judge this person and accuse them of narcissism et? They might be thoughtless and naive but I strongly resent your accusations of cruel and narc.
There are times when I despair, if I had thought anybody was going to go for the jugular about a misguided but nevertheless caring family member, I would never have asked for an opinion about whether I should (gently) say anything or not.

I get one of those letters every year written by the husband of someone I have known all my life although we are not that close anymore. It is so pompous and condescending it makes me want to vomit!!!

Poor child. Once it’s ’out there’ it’s never going to go away. Imagine how betrayed they will feel in a few years time.

I wouldn’t say anything now (the genie is out of the bottle) but if the opportunity we’re ever to arise in future I would make my point.

sf101

I get one of those letters every year written by the husband of someone I have known all my life although we are not that close anymore. It is so pompous and condescending it makes me want to vomit!!!

This is NOT about a Christmas letters,
That’s another subject (of another thread) altogether.

I'd ask if she's sure it's OK to tell others all her grandchild's issues.

You are assuming it’s a “she”.
It’s not.