Strange behaviour from DH

If this is normal behaviour for him, I'm surprised you have put up with it for so long.
If this is unusual, then it may be a sign of mental decline.
Perhaps you should ask your daughter whether she thinks his behaviour is something to be concerned about.

If your husband becomes increasingly grumpy and forgetful - take note.
It could be the early signs of dementia .

He just accepted your gift without a word and simply put it aside? Then he drives off to the neighbour while your asleep, no indication of his intention?
I wonder how he explained your absence to the aforesaid neighbour.

He may be in his eighties but have these incidents just come out of the blue?

Primrose has made a valid point- please bear that in mind . Keep a note of any more unusual behaviours , and talk to your GP if you are worried.

It could well be the start of dementia. Behaving differently or if their normal grumpy behaviour worsens then it is worth getting checked out.

Leaving you behind is also worrying and another potential sign of dementia.

He is acting like a child how pathetic don’t make excuses for him just look after yourself 🥂🎄

Phone the neighbour and ask them to remind him that he forgot to take you along. What a silly little man!

I was once married to someone who demanded his meals at specific times EVERY DAY - there was NO compromise! Even camping holidays HAD to be meat and two veg at 12 noon! He sucked all the joy out of everything.

Elegran

Next year remind him well in advance that he didn't like gong to daughter's for Christmas meal instead of you making it, and tell him that you so much enjoyed the rest from cooking that again you don't want to do it. If he starts to complain, then say that perhaps it is his turn, and if he doesn't want to cook himself then you would love to be taken out somewhere.

Well, next year I would tell him you'd both been invited to granddaughter's (or wherever) for dinner, you're going and he can please himself whether or not he wants to go.
Give him plenty of notice so that, if he decides not to go, he can shop for the ingredients to cook his own Christmas dinner.

If he forgot to take you today that is worrying.
If he went and deliberately left you at home then that is worrying too. That behaviour is totally unacceptable and you perhaps need to recruit another family member for support and tell him he needs to pull his head in.

I would lock him out.. how rude

Sorry to hear this.

Does he dislike your grand-daughter´s husband or family or her children ?

At the age of 85, his attitude seems a bit un-reasonable without any explanations ..

i would call your neighbour to check and see if he arrived at your neighbour´s ..

I would also ask your neighbour if some one could be so kind to pick you up ..

All our best wishes that your sun shines on this day.

Merry Christmas and have a lovely Christmas Season despite the rain on your parade ..

I wouldn't be worried.
It's hardly likely he forgot about his wife.

It's a deliberate act, because he is sulking.

It was one thing to moan about the Christmas dinner but quite another to go off to the neighbours without you when you were asleep.
I would be worried about him tbh.I would also have phoned your neighbours to explain and see how your DH handles that!

Don't cry Ex dancer, just put it down to him being a grumpy 85 year old having a second childhood. My OH always wants to stay at home too because "he likes my cooking best". My fault in that I havn't insisted over our long marriage that he learns to cook and take his turn, like some of my friends husbands do. It was incredibly mean of him to leave you behind when he went to the neighbours. I'm afraid I would give him a massive piece of my mind and leave him to sulk and get his own food for a few days or until he apologised. Stay calm.

Phone him and ask if he forgot something = his wife.

I said on the other thread exDancer that you should maybe talk to the gp if this is unusual behaviour.

Next year remind him well in advance that he didn't like gong to daughter's for Christmas meal instead of you making it, and tell him that you so much enjoyed the rest from cooking that again you don't want to do it. If he starts to complain, then say that perhaps it is his turn, and if he doesn't want to cook himself then you would love to be taken out somewhere.

Phone the neighbour to tell them that he forgot to take you with him this afternoon.

Is he prone to strops? If so, ignore him and don’t buy him an expensive present again.

If this is out of character for him, then I would be a bit more concerned.

I don't think being in a strop is a health issue.
If you're sure it's because you didn't cook, we'll let him get on with his silly tantrum.