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Has anyone been on a controlling relationship or love bombed?

(19 Posts)
michael1152 Fri 17-Jan-25 20:22:04

Hi. I met someone one day off a gay dating site. A day after chatting, we arranged to meet 2 days later, but ended up meeting up a day later for a few hours, then they wanted to see me everyday, so went saw each other 12 days in a row.

They stopped overnight here, about 4 /5 times. I stopped there once and net his mother/ sister, he's lived up here for 2 years, apparently escaped an abusive ex who made him dress a certain way, not allowed friends/ used to hit him.

It was going quite, well. Really quick, he texted constantly when he was a work, and at home when we weren't together, then suddenly 1 night he got screenshots off his ex, apparently of me meeting/ caherinngon another lad called Danny, I'd never met a Danny in my life,! Let alone with a red Corsa car! Anyway he was adamant I've cheated and called a weekend away in Blackpool which we'd paid for. And one of these screennshots had this ex and Danny saying where I lived/ worked, all my hobbies and what I did in my life.

I got the police as Inwas really creeper out. And they reconnned the lad I was seeing had made all this up, to go.back to his ex. I also saw my doctor, as the whole thing made my anxiety go through the roof. The Dr reckoned he'd made it all up. I was like whaaaat! He said I've had a really really lucky escape!

He had also shown me this 3 page love letter in his book he'd written all about what he'd mapped out for the rest of out lives and getting married! And also a big list of places where we were gping to.visit. I don't know what anyone else makes of all this? Or had some very weird similar dating experience?

M0nica Fri 17-Jan-25 21:04:21

You had a lucky escape, stop worrying about it and get on with your life without this person.

RosiesMaw2 Fri 17-Jan-25 21:22:55

I am totally confused and don’t really see what this is about confusedconfused

Iam64 Fri 17-Jan-25 21:30:34

It’s a strange post for Gransnet

Sago Fri 17-Jan-25 21:34:17

Don’t get sucked in.

downtoearth Sat 18-Jan-25 08:12:22

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Sago Sat 18-Jan-25 08:29:03

downtoearth

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Possibly yes!

Skydancer Sat 18-Jan-25 08:36:28

Nothing to do with Gransnet.

BlueBelle Sat 18-Jan-25 09:13:25

Well I guess he’s someone’s grandson !

I think you did the right things spoke to the police, doctor and cut all ties, nothing else much to do but wipe him out your mind and start more slowly and cautiously in future and perhaps give the dating sites a miss and try the old fashioned way of meeting people through friends, work, hobbies and other more ‘boring’ and long winded processes

flappergirl Sat 18-Jan-25 09:44:55

AI generated. If not, and the poster is real, she hasn't read her audience very well.

RosiesMaw2 Sat 18-Jan-25 10:44:12

I’d have expected AI to be literate at least, possibly stilted, but to make sense.

pascal30 Sat 18-Jan-25 10:49:57

If tis post is authentic then I agree with Bluebell's response and hope it helps him..

LOUISA1523 Sat 18-Jan-25 11:27:31

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Bea65 Sat 18-Jan-25 11:36:44

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Aldom Sat 18-Jan-25 11:36:47

A kind and thoughtful response BlueBelle.

Millie22 Sat 18-Jan-25 12:05:46

I think perhaps michael has posted on the wrong site 🤔

Oreo Sat 18-Jan-25 13:21:42

Millie22

I think perhaps michael has posted on the wrong site 🤔

I think he got gransnet mixed up with grindr perhaps?

Georgesgran Sat 18-Jan-25 13:52:13

Well he hasn’t returned with any comments, as yet.

Astitchintime Sat 18-Jan-25 14:00:25

Oh michael1152.......methinks you've had a narrow escape!