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Susan56 Sun 16-Feb-25 13:58:02

Your post brought tears to my eyes Macadia.
Tears for what you have suffered and are suffering and tears for your husband suffering from this cruel disease.
Wishing you the best recovery possible🙏🏻

Grandmabatty Sun 16-Feb-25 13:43:10

I remember you posting Macadia. I'm very sorry for what you have gone through. You sound very forgiving. I hope you have peace.

pascal30 Sun 16-Feb-25 12:43:16

You sound like a wonderful. compassionate woman Macadia
Your love for your husband is truly touching.. I wish you both the happiness you deserve

granfromafar Sun 16-Feb-25 12:38:39

You have been through a lot, and survived, so wishing you peace and that you enjoy what time you have left. Stay strong. My OH is in early stage Alzheimers so who knows what the future brings? 'Make the most of each day' has become our motto.

NonGrannyMoll Sun 16-Feb-25 12:34:19

Oh Macadia, sorry but I can't help but send you sympathy. On a brighter note, please do keep on keeping on and do whatever you can do every day. I admire your fortitude and have taken a personal lesson from it. All the best, lady.

Babs03 Sun 16-Feb-25 12:23:10

So very sorry Macadia, wishing you the strength you will need in the days ahead. Of course we can’t blame your DH, dementia makes them do and say things that are totally not what they would do ordinarily.
Please put your own well being first and ‘yes’ you are alive, so when you recover make sure you live whatever life you have.
Take care 🌺🙏🏾

Romola Sun 16-Feb-25 12:22:44

What a terrible experience, Macadia. Your husband must have been in a state of terror too, when he did that.
And you have undergone two brain surgeries, also awful and hard to recover from.
You were brave to write to us Grans. I hope your courage will sustain you. Keep writing if you feel up to it.

Greenfinch Sun 16-Feb-25 12:13:50

Thank you for passing on your positive approach to life Macadia. We can all learn a lot from that. Do keep on contributing to GN. It is lovely to hear from you and I send very best wishes to you.

AGAA4 Sun 16-Feb-25 12:04:17

What an awful thing to happen Macadia. You are a strong lady and I'm glad you now have peace as your husband is being cared for elsewhere.
He was not in his right mind when he attacked you as you know and he must be suffering too knowing he has harmed you.
Take care of yourself 🌻

crazyH Sun 16-Feb-25 12:03:48

Glad to have you back Macadia. Sorry that things have not been so good.
My feisty, opinionated and in-control mother turned into this mild , soft spoken lady, with Dementia. I was the youngest of nine - she completely forgot my name. I loved her regardless..
Look after yourself. Don’t worry, your husband will be well looked after in a Home.
Good luck with everything flowers

Indigo8 Sun 16-Feb-25 12:00:23

You are clearly a very strong person. I wish you the best possible for whatever the future holds.thanks

Smileless2012 Sun 16-Feb-25 11:57:02

I also believe that the Lord does see what is in our hearts Macadia and will see that your H loves you and was not in control of his actions.

I hope he will find some peace and comfort in prayer and that you will continue to improve flowers.

Chocolatelovinggran Sun 16-Feb-25 11:51:22

Welcome back Macadia. I wish better times ahead for you.

Rainbow1235 Sun 16-Feb-25 11:48:34

My mother recently passed from dementia it’s a very cruel illness and they realy don’t know what they are doin . That said it all sounds awful for u and I wish u all the best . Xxxxx

Macadia Sun 16-Feb-25 11:26:01

Thank you MOnica you made me laugh.

I have to be somewhat careful they say...no laugh, no cough, no sneese etc.. so my brain doesnt explode again.

Macadia Sun 16-Feb-25 11:20:09

Thank you everyone fornreading my post and sending me confidence but no pity. I am no longer allowed to drive so that will be an adjustment. Thank you for not hating my DH cuz i think my kids must want to kill him. He is praying for forgiveness because he is horrified by this. I told him the Lord sees what is in your heart. Thank you. I must sleep. Again. So tired all the time.

silverlining48 Sun 16-Feb-25 11:01:41

Macadia welcome back. You have had what sounds like a dreadful time. Dementia is a cruel disease. I hope your dh settles into his new home and you have people around who love and care for you. Sending you peace and recovery.flowers

M0nica Sun 16-Feb-25 10:55:37

You have survived so much, I am sure you will keep proving you are a survivor.

I am fit and healthy, but could get run down by a lorry tomorrow when I go to my Tai Chi class - I have to cross a busy road. So live well and free of fear from attack from a DH, who is not in control of his own actions.

BlueBelle Sun 16-Feb-25 10:43:55

Gosh Macadia how truly awful for you I m sure you’re husband wouldn’t have harmed you if he had been in his right mind I hope you improve and have a lot longer than a year to live your life
I hope you have some help and love around you now you are home and will continue to improve.
No pity from me, strong lady, carry on being strong and getting better every day
💐

dragonfly46 Sun 16-Feb-25 10:40:24

Gosh Macadia what a dreadful time you have had. It is good to hear from you though and hope things continue to improve for you.

Macadia Sun 16-Feb-25 10:37:52

Hello my dear ladies and gents. I have not been on for some time. Because ive been in hospital. Forgive me if i make typos. I cant see so well. You might remember me as Macadia. I take care of dogs for a living. I have enjoyed your company and chatter and remedies and recipes. Im in bad sorts. My loving husband in a fit of dementia strangled me and i have been through two brain surgeries for aneurysms and a brain bleed. I am moving him to a home. Away from me. I am very happy. Happy to be alive. Though i dont know how much longer i have - maybe a year they say. I am just posting this to say hello. I dont need any pity. Live each day as if it is your last gift. Love you all. - Macadia.