Emotional needs unmet

Lydie45, how lovely you have memories like this to see you through. My husband's response to a "How do I look?" is, "You can't make a silk purse...!" This relates back to a misplaced jokey response of his on our first anniversary which backfired spectacularly, especially when he then went on to tell the young, beautiful child-minder how nice she looked. We nearly didn't have a second anniversary! Now we laugh about it every time I ask the question.

Only you know the answer. I know I would rather be with my husband always there for me, but if you think the grass is greener...

Do the unmet emotional needs refer to the OP or the hubby?

My husbands normal response if I asked how I look would be “you’ve scrubbed up well” then sometimes follow it with “have you got a date”. I would say “no chance, once bitten twice shy” then we would laugh. Before he died he said promise me you will carry on looking nice after I’ve gone. Whenever I go out I say to his empty chair “hope I’ve scrubbed up well”.

Tedious.

Jackanory!

Honestly, some people really need to get a life!

Another disappearing OP!

My dh never notices what I’m wearing either. I used to say he wouldn’t notice if I went out topless with my nipples painted green. Possibly a slight exaggeration, but not by much.

GrannyGravy, I know which I’d prefer, too. When I was in hospital for 3 weeks dh came twice a day, bringing whatever I needed, mostly endless clean pyjamas since I was having drenching sweats every night.
What I’d have done without him, I honestly do not know.

Kind and gentle, sounds a gem. You're a fool to risk throwing it away. Relationships are like swimming pools, all the noise comes from the shallow end.

I do believe you are correct!

Jackanory?

Do you remember many moons ago, a children's series whereby somebody would read a piece of fiction and people would crowd round the telly.

Something beginning with J?

The OP has disappeared - go figure 🙄

Well, one day Mr Jen67patte might very quietly decide his wife doesn't understand him, doesn't care about him, is too needy and find someone who does understand him and loves him for himself.

I’m recently widowed, all I say to you is, cherish him

😂

Do something nice for your DH - the man who shares his home with you.
Macadia
Excuse me? Not defending the OP in any way, but the man shares his home with her?? Remind me which century we’re in!

It could be worse. He COULD notice everything you wear, and criticise.

Grow up! Appreciate and be grateful for what you’ve got.

And the title of your thread is disingenuous; it’s not your emotional needs that aren’t being met, it’s your need for validation. Honestly, you don’t know how lucky you are 😬

If he’s always been like this and it bothered you then, why is it such a source of irritation now?
He’s kind and gentle, the two most important things you need in a partner.
TBH you sound a bit shallow.
Count your blessings and blow up your marriage to get a bit of attention if you must.

What sort of man would be interested in a Cheater?

Oh, of course: THAT type of man.

Wake up and get over yourself. You're just bored at home and cheap entertainment for the old friend. Do something nice for your DH - the man who shares his home with you.

Mt61

I think most fellas are like that tbh. I’ve been wearing a new coat for last few weeks & my hubby hasn’t noticed. . Might do in two years time though 🤣

"Oh, this old thing" 😁

I think most fellas are like that tbh. I’ve been wearing a new coat for last few weeks & my hubby hasn’t noticed. . Might do in two years time though 🤣

The grass is greener on the other side of the fence as its been sprayed with manure......

Daisydaisydaisy

I was married to a man that didn't talk a lot ...I was extremely lonely .We finally divorced after being together for over 28years ...😢🙂

I'm really sorry to hear that you went through such a difficult time. Loneliness in a relationship can be incredibly painful, especially when you’ve spent so many years together. It's clear that you invested a lot of yourself into that marriage, and I can only imagine how much that must have affected you over time.

Divorce after so many years isn’t just the end of a relationship – it's the end of a part of your life, and that’s always hard to navigate. But I hope you’ve found peace in the years since, and that you've learned things about yourself along the way. Sometimes we grow in ways we never expected, and those experiences, though tough, shape who we are.

I hope you’re surrounded by support now, and finding your way forward, whether that’s with new interests, friendships, or just reconnecting with who you are outside of that relationship. Your story matters, and you deserve happiness and fulfillment, whether on your own or with someone who truly understands you. 💙